What four things must a woman do after being deeply involved in an extramarital affair

I eventually fell into an extramarital affair. I fell in love with a man with a wife, and I had a perfect family. Sometimes we would eat, go shopping, and watch movies together. Every time we were together, I would be very happy, but we never had anything between men and women. Every time he controlled it and said he couldn't hurt me, and he also said he loved me and couldn't hurt me.

Today, I showed him some chat records between me and my husband, all of which were words my husband said he cared about me very much. After reading them, he said he couldn't treat me like this again in the future. He also said that I have such a good husband and asked me to cherish him well.

He said he didn't want to destroy my family or hurt me. After hearing him say this, I inexplicably felt heartbroken. I don't know what to do now. Is this my willingness?

The more he is like this, the more I feel like he is a good man. My husband is still at home for two days, and I originally wanted to wait for him to come out together. But he said he would come out on the sixth day, and asked me to come out on the same day. I didn't hesitate to come out, and after coming out, we had meals together, watched movies, and so on.

Sometimes when I think about my husband being so kind to me, don't contact him anymore, but I can't do it every time. Now my heart is filled with him. Can you teach me how to do it, Brother Shan?

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In the field of extramarital affairs, some men are good at playing easy to get, some men are good at retreating, some men are good at pretending to be pitiful, and some men are good at pleasing others. The man you love should belong to the former. But no matter what kind, it's not polite to say that men who get involved in other people's marriages are not good men, especially those who wear the banner of love and have a wife at home. Ultimately, the real purpose behind these men is to have that bed and own your body.

On the other hand, you are also the same. Although you have a husband who loves you deeply and a perfect family, you ignore all of this and are deceived by a hypocritical man with a fake face. You are already on the brink of danger. At this time, if you do not see all of this as soon as possible and restrain your actions in a timely manner, you will stage a plot that you will regret in the future. What should you do about this?

1. See the real face of the other person clearly.

No matter how well this man treats you, no matter how you feel about him, you need to understand that he is a man with a family, and you have no right to talk about love and romance with each other unless you both return to being single. This man has a wife, but he accompanies other women outside of the family, but tries to please you. You think he is a good man in front of you, but in the eyes of others, he is just a hypocritical little person.

2. Know how to cherish the happiness you already have.

You admit to having a perfect family yourself, but why don't you cherish it? Is it because your husband is too kind to you, causing you to lose your gratitude, or have you really changed and no longer love each other? As a woman, don't be too greedy or addicted to love. If you are not satisfied with your existing marriage and your significant other, you can communicate openly with your husband to strive for their understanding and improvement. Instead, carrying the banner of pursuing love and betraying it in the name of love outside of marriage. A woman who does not know how to cherish and love herself will inevitably encounter difficulties in her relationship and marriage.

3. Respect the moral bottom line of being a person

Whether men or women, they should have their own principles of right and wrong and moral bottom line in life. They should not indulge their behavior, not be too self centered, and not too selfish. Otherwise, there will be no good outcome. Before you fell in love with that man, during our frequent dates, meals, and movies, should you ask yourself if this is the right thing to do? Don't you feel ashamed? Are you qualified again? Continuously asking questions is the only way to know shame and then be brave, and to stop at the brink of going astray and change past mistakes.

4. Take it easy and bury this beauty in your heart

Perhaps, even if you and this man meet someone they think is right at the wrong time, but think about it, can you really achieve success? Is it really interesting to have a fruitless' love 'and toss around a morally condemned' pursuit of love '? If you believe that the other person is the male god in your heart that you cannot part with, and if you feel that the other person is so making you unable to part with, then in order to reap the most beautiful love in life, please freeze this beauty in this moment, like the beauty of first love, and bury it deep in your heart for yourself to remember and recall. While you have not yet broken through the last line of defense, this beauty will still retain its integrity, Otherwise, continuing will harm not only others, but also yourself. Listen to Brother Shan, don't struggle in an extremely immature, irrational, and unrealistic emotional vortex, otherwise you will be very tired, exhausted, and haggard.