Post Date December, 03 2023
A year ago, I met a man with a family who lived apart from his wife for 8 years and has not yet gone through divorce procedures. In the process of socializing, we didn't cohabit, but usually just contacted by phone or went out to play together. In terms of money, he is also very generous. He said he must marry me and respect me. Now it's time to talk about marriage, he went to talk about divorce with his wife, but she didn't agree. Please give him one month to handle this matter. I'm very sleepy. I don't think he's after money or for bed (not cohabiting). Should I trust him? Moreover, he has not seen my family until now, and he said that he can only go to see them openly after dealing with them properly. I'm very scared. Have I encountered an emotional scammer?
Miss Chen:
As you said, he doesn't care about money or color, and you are a bit worried that it is to deceive emotions. Generally speaking, the ultimate goal of deceiving emotions is to "go to bed", so it seems that the possibility of deceiving emotions will be reduced.
This man and his wife have been separated for 8 years. When it comes to discussing marriage with you, he goes to talk about divorce with his wife. This action is still quite responsible to you, which can also explain why he feels that meeting your family in this situation is not "fair and square". He may also feel that it is difficult for him to speak up about not getting divorced, and your family may think he is irresponsible.
So, perhaps he disguised himself very well. Actually, this verification is very simple. Since he is willing to respect you and give you a month's commitment, you might as well give him a month's time to see what answer he comes up with. You gave him a year, and it shouldn't be difficult to give him another month. A month later, based on the answer he gave, you can decide on the next step no later.
At the same time, it is recommended that you have a deep understanding of him and eliminate the "hidden dangers", as marriage is a major event in life.
