What changes will happen after a man and a woman fall in love? What situations do two people in love face

The cost of love is not only physical attraction, but also spiritual comfort. Love is a warm haven for two people to give each other under the cruelty of this society.

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The so-called passion period, in simple terms, refers to the moments when we vow to make a solemn vow and fall in love. We will experience a peak experience of life, as if we have arrived in heaven. This feeling is very wonderful and extraordinary. But how long have these moments been like this? Science has conducted surveys and statistics on this, with a minimum of four months and a maximum of one and a half years. This indicates that the passion period has a certain material effect and has a time limit.

Science has found that when we are in a passionate state of love, the feeling of brain activity is very similar to that of drug addiction. At that time, the brain is mainly stimulated by dopamine and endorphins, which bring us a strong sense of pleasure and a strong sense of attraction to each other. This strong feeling, since it is an internal material stimulus, will have a moment of extinction and a deadline.

After the deadline has passed, what should we do next? The next thing is the difference between humans and animals. In fact, the fact that humans can have such a long period of passion is very different from animals. Animals don't care about the period of passion, it's just the period of estrus. Once the estrus period is over, females and males lose interest in each other. The period of human passion can be approximately equal to the period of animal estrus, which may seem to hurt our self-esteem, but the fact is that it is.

The marriage system refers to a lifelong relationship. If our relationship is purely organized and processed by hormones, then interpersonal relationships are all short-term. These factors that create short-term effects are not matched with a real and genuine emotion.

What is related to short-term attraction? Firstly, our appearance, voice, nonverbal actions, and so on are all external attractions. Everyone has some special qualities, such as love poetry for literati, muscle for athletes, and body and face for beautiful women. Each type of person has its own traits that can form an external attraction.

When these external attractions arise, our passion period begins, and when they die, our passion period cannot be sustained. Many women will say that after the age of thirty, women begin to decline, and at forty, it's like selling cheap cabbage in the evening, aging and fading. There is also a view that men are lower body animals, completely concerned about appearance factors such as youth and beauty. This is based on a short-term perspective of passion, which equates humans with animals.

So what can sustain our long-term relationship after the passion period? In the past, the answer was often morality, family interests, identity, economic status, and so on. But these maintain relationships rather than emotional relationships.

For a long time in the past, women did not have the right to divorce. Men can divorce their wives, but for women, they have no voting rights, no economic rights, and even no right to their own names, let alone the right to divorce. This means that women will lose many external rights. Before liberation, even during the Cultural Revolution, women had no real emotional relationships and were more likely to be influenced by many economic and social factors. Besides our bodies, what else can we love each other? Long term emotional relationships refer to the intimate relationship between the two of us that can be maintained even after a period of passion. We feel a sense of intimacy, not just like family members. Nowadays, many people say that after the passion period of marriage begins, we are no longer lovers, but relatives, which is the theme of marriage. This is actually using the ancient way of thinking to see marriage, and there is no doubt that it cannot truly sustain the marriage of our contemporary people.

The relationship between people ultimately falls on the emotional level, where we actually have many parts to explore and evolve. In the past, we either blocked the deep emotional relationships out of sight or narrowed them down to estrus between animals, which was too biased.