Orgasm is a magic thing, it makes the relationship between husband and wife more solid, and sexual life becomes full of passion. But some behaviors in life often kill Orgasm. To this end, the American Men's Health website conducted a survey of thousands of couples, summarized six behaviors that affect orgasm, and provided solutions.
Act too hastily. Before there is not enough foreplay, "going straight to the theme" or overexerting will delay the arrival of female orgasm. Hirschman, a famous American gender expert in New York, said: "Men mistakenly believe that skipping foreplay will make women orgasm quickly, but in fact it will take longer and the effect will be worse." Experts suggested that slowing down, more verbal communication and hugging can help both parties achieve Orgasm at the same time.
Always inquire about feelings. In the process of sex, properly asking the other person's feelings can help to master the rhythm, but if you frequently ask the other person "how do you feel", "comfortable", etc., it will create Psychological stress on your partner and make him (her) become less confident. Hechman suggests providing feedback to the other person through physical movements, facial expressions, etc., such as rapid breathing and powerful movements.
Don't turn off the TV. Orgasm requires a certain amount of attention, so never be distracted. Dr. Daniel Ariel, a sexologist, said that it is important to ensure that the TV, computer, and phone in the room are turned off and both parties are completely in a private space. Also, don't expect simultaneous orgasms, everyone should pay attention to their own pleasure. If one party reaches orgasm first, then the next time they should pay more attention to the other party.
Always thinking of imitating pornographic films. Some men watch pornographic films and get "inspiration" from them, believing that sex should be as intense, plot oriented, and skilled as pornographic films. But Hirschman said that always wanting to imitate pornographic films and treat sex as a performance can backfire. What really opens the door to female orgasm is the language and behavior of intimacy, rather than those poor stupid skills.
Sudden change in frequency. Dr. Daniel Ariel said that when women approach orgasm, men need to maintain the same intensity and rhythm. If men suddenly increase their strength or speed, women's accumulated feelings will fall short. So when women say 'don't stop', they just need to maintain the frequency instead of becoming even crazier.