Post Date November, 17 2024
There are many obstacles to marriage, the first of which is the childishness of women. Of course, the obstacles to marriage are not limited to childishness, but childishness is indeed the biggest obstacle to marriage.
Bad Problems
Women are hazy about love during their teenage years, only imagining the beauty of love and not considering too many other things. However, in order to have a true love relationship, the woman must first learn to become mature, so that she can withstand the blows from various aspects on the difficult road of love. So, what are the manifestations of immaturity in women, and how can they overcome these "bad habits"?
1. Frivolous behavior
When encountering a social party with a handsome man present, you are the first among the ladies to exchange business cards in front of him to show your infinite charm. However, you may not care about your swaying waist when walking, or your overly sweet and sexy voice when talking. Jealous female colleagues will quickly spread this matter to the company's leaders in the form of gossip, leading to a rapid decline in your reliability index.
You are already well aware of the reason for standing out and attracting attention. After all, Cinderella is ignored, and maintaining a high level of turnover and attention is beneficial for enhancing your confidence. However, it's best to leave things like navel baring for your cousin, and it's best to add a shawl when going out in a halter top. Mature women are at least elegant in appearance. By the way, the SMS messages sent to you by sisters should not be forwarded to the opposite sex. These words of mutual encouragement may not apply to everyone. Remember, deep charm comes from your inner expression, not just a momentary display of talent.
2. Love vanity
You're not twenty years old, so why bother putting on a show for your birthday? If you don't have a boyfriend to send flowers, don't secretly call the flower shop and ask for three or more female colleagues to be present. As a couple who already live a family life, there is no need to demand high standards and strict demands from male partners on Valentine's Day.
The latest mobile phones are not specifically designed for you, they have a lot of display, and some features you can't actually use, especially those that look thin but are expensive. You can just admire them through the window, after all, their money is used to support the family. It can be understood that women all like a shiny appearance, but those female celebrities who endorse high-end makeup brands use free gifts, and even make money with them. You and they are not on the same starting line. So, don't force yourself, do everything within your ability, and be more practical when buying things will make you more at home feminine. Otherwise, in the eyes of men, you are always not a woman who is good at managing a family and raising children, which is also one of the reasons why you are delayed in getting married.
3. Impulsive consumption
I believe that when you pass by a showcase full of beautiful clothes, you will unconsciously touch your bank card. If every time you consume, your heart feels like an angel flying, then it's best to remember "impulse is the devil" before consuming.
Did you throw those sunglasses into the drawer after buying them and never pay attention to them again? The imported doll from the newly opened boutique on the street is so expensive that you can buy it for ten yuan in Yiwu. Have you ever bought it on the spur of the moment and never opened the box seal again? That's right, you have the same hobbies as all women in the world, obsessed with spending money to buy some useless toys. You will feel the joy of materialism in the moment you have it. As for terms such as practicality, value for use, and cost-effectiveness, you rarely care.
If you are only responsible for being impulsive when spending and spending more when impulsive, then no wonder in the eyes of others, you are always a little girl who loves to spend money recklessly!
4. Love Fantasy
You are the kind of person who claims to be single and without a lover, but never lacks love around you. When you are overly depressed, you will also search for a fast food style love in the vast internet or dim bars. As a girl, you are a perfectionism. You are like a fairy. You must find a prince, not necessarily Arab, but at least Afghan. Adhere to the image standards of Gao Daquan for the male protagonist in the upcoming love story. Later on, you met a man named A, B, C, and D, and they were not very satisfied with each other, so you began to feel that life was in the distance and love was elsewhere. Later on, you met a man named ABCD through a friend's introduction. You thought you had read countless people and were mature enough, so you sincerely lamented that "you had already seen through men" and "there was not a good thing".
In fact, you haven't figured out that you're just a romantic fantasist. Everyone can understand the love dreams you had when you were young and ignorant, but after honing them in reality for so long, you still refuse to live a down-to-earth life. On the one hand, you keep dating but always refuse to truly immerse yourself, and on the other hand, you eagerly hope that extremely romantic things will happen to you. You live with such an emotional attitude, and obviously, except for your body becoming more and more mature, you have achieved nothing.
5. Lose one's temper recklessly
Some people's reactions are always slow, while you are the opposite, with a quick hairstyle. Because of a boyfriend's excessive evaluation of your attire, you will immediately shake off his arm on the street, making him desperately search for a hole in the ground in front of everyone. On your emotional chart, the transition from sunny to cloudy, with occasional gusts and occasional showers.
If occasional pettiness can add a touch of cuteness to you, then please believe that few men can tolerate your habitual anger. There are at least ten reasons why you, who are emotionally inclined to shed tears, should not lose your temper: there are claims of liver and stomach damage, claims of promoting aging and longevity, claims of affecting work, claims of decreased affinity, claims of losing femininity, and claims of damaging image Life is all about joy, anger, sorrow, and joy. Getting angry is a normal phenomenon, but losing one's temper is clearly a sign of immaturity.
6. Flaccidity and relaxation
Let's talk about your career. Do you often lose things? Do you often want to have a day off? Fishing for three days and drying the net for two days? Is it common for businesses to prioritize and prioritize? If you want to predict whether your career has a bright future, whether you can become a leader or can only become a leader's wife, you don't need to test how many talents and strategies you have. Just check if your handbag is cluttered with debris or organized, or reflect on whether your blog is filled with daydreams and freehand poetry, or an organized work plan.
A person who has a plan, can implement the plan, has effective implementation, and has obvious results will be welcomed by any boss. If the situation is the opposite, then don't use the excuse of "plan is not as fast as change". If you change quickly enough, it is because you have no plan at all. If it weren't for gender stability, your chances of becoming the leader's wife would be very low.
7. Narrow-minded
The new female colleague is more popular with the leadership than you, younger and more beautiful than you, and wearing more fashionable clothes. It really makes you feel very uncomfortable! The trivial matters between colleagues and the unintentional teasing of the speaker back and forth can immediately arouse your inexplicable jealousy. You're taking action, although there's no absolute malice, you can't help but say bad things about her behind her back, mock her embarrassment, mock her attire Women are indeed a jealous animal, lacking an open mind in certain aspects and often prone to extremes. However, you need to know that mature people understand tolerance and seek common ground while reserving differences. Think about the tolerance and understanding your boyfriend has shown you over the years! If you were more broad-minded like him, the atmosphere in your office would definitely be much more harmonious, and your popularity would also be better.
8. Wayward self
Starting from a young girl, you don't have to teach to learn how to argue about eating ice cream and buying new clothes. As you grow up, you still do. If your boyfriend doesn't spend the weekend shopping with you, you don't care if he has to work overtime or socialize on official business, just one word: "Nao! Dare to go against my girl's will? Do you dare not obey my young lady's orders? Dare not listen to my aunt's words Alright, you better stop it.
A woman who is presumptuous and unreasonable, who does not empathize with others, or even a woman who is domineering and extreme in herself, cannot be considered a lovely woman in everyone's eyes. It's okay to be petty and lose your temper, just stop it in time. Men are tired of women who are too headstrong and don't think for each other in any situation. The meaning of maturity includes understanding how to respect others, how to respect others, and being grateful.
9. Elderly and ignorant
There are many women like you, who are old and at a critical age. Their interests and hobbies are still limited to shopping and playing, and they do not understand society and life, nor do they care about career development.
People who muddle along without a sense of hardship often encounter devastating blows when faced with life's twists and turns. The so-called ignorant are helpless, sad and pitiful. If it can be forgiven for the ignorance and youth of a fifteen or sixteen year old blooming girl, then if you, who are twice the age of a blooming girl, are still as simple and childish, innocent, and have not significantly improved your emotional intelligence and intelligence as you were more than a decade ago, it is your fault.
It's not that your familiarity with celebrity gossip proves your erudition, it's not that watching a lot of TV shows shows you have a deep understanding of life, it's not that typing quickly proves your computer skills, it's not that jokingly proving you're an expert in business negotiations Knowledge also has its depth, and cultivation also has its depth, which depends on the accumulation of time and effort in dealing with others, as well as your requirements and expectations for yourself.
If compared to young people, you only have a few years of work attendance records, then sooner or later you will lose the status that elders deserve.
10. Repeated education without change
As an adult woman, you not only cannot remember some of the game rules of office politics and emotional interaction, but also repeatedly violate them. You often openly express your true thoughts in front of competing colleagues, thinking that if you open the window, others will speak up to you, but you never know that this is definitely a very dangerous thing. You also have such a short memory in your relationship. Your ex boyfriend, the heartless man who never looked back when he left you, came to you again on a rainy day for the Nth time, and you always forgot that he would break up with you after dawn. Your heart softened again for the Nth+1 time.
An immature woman can only be considered a passer by on the path of love, they cannot experience the sweetness, cannot learn to give, and will not reap a happy marriage in the end. So, in order to gain the deep love of a man, you should put an end to your immature mentality and let go of your "childish" practices. Only then can you make progress and enjoy the beauty of love.
