What are sexual cleanliness and sexual sin psychology, and how should they be prevented and corrected

In real society, there are many couples with disharmonious sexual lives, but they are ashamed to seek medical advice due to various factors. Erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, fear of sexual intercourse, vaginal spasms, and so on are mostly psychogenic sexual dysfunction, which have been introduced in many popular science journals and will not be elaborated here. Today, I will introduce to readers two other easily overlooked sexual psychological disorders - sexual cleanliness and sexual guilt.

Sexual cleanliness refers to the person who acknowledges that their genitals and sexual behavior comply with hygiene standards, but cannot control their feelings of being dirty, causing disgust towards the opposite sex and affecting sexual harmony and marital relationships. There are three types of sexual cleanliness fetishists: physical type, mental type, and mixed type. Physical type patients believe that the other person's genitalia and even their genital secretions are dirty, which puts them in a state of unavoidable aversion for fulfilling sexual obligations; Spiritual individuals are averse to the opposite sex, which is actually normal sexual behavior, sexual expression, and sexual language; The mixed type is a combination of the first two types of performance. Sexual cleanliness sufferers often suspect that their partner's genitalia is dirty, requiring them not only to wash their lower body, but also to "disinfect" them with alcohol and wear condoms. There are more women and fewer men with sexual cleanliness tendencies (but not exclusively).

They feel disgusted and unwilling to tolerate their husbands' sexual behavior, even their words and smiles. They not only dislike their husbands' saliva, secretions, and sounds, but also dislike their husbands' actions, expressions, and language of expressing love. Although these are all manifestations of sexual psychological disorders, many people cannot recognize this, but instead believe that "the other party does not really love me" or that they are "hygienic" or "tasteful", which is truly sad. The psychological disorders of sexual cleanliness mostly occur in young couples who have not been married for too long. Sexual guilt psychology occurs in remarried women. Women with this psychological disorder often exhibit a sense of nervousness and fear during sexual intercourse after marrying their stephusband, and often confide in their stephusband about his selfishness in sexual matters. They only focus on their own satisfaction and do not show consideration for her; Or to say, having sex with my ex husband is out of helplessness, just fulfilling my responsibilities as a wife, which prevents my ex husband from experiencing beautiful feelings during the sexual process and affects the harmony of sexual life.

Many future husbands, unable to understand the psychological barrier of remarriage, mistakenly believe that the wife is missing their ex husband, which casts a shadow over family life. Whether it is sexual cleanliness or sexual sin mentality, their emergence has their historical roots and social background, and many people believe that sexual organs and behavior are fundamentally dirty and shameful. People believe that everything can be said, except for sex. This is the result of China's long-standing feudal ideology, which regards sex as a prohibited area and insufficient positive promotion of sexual knowledge. Many young girls have been told since childhood that their menstruation is dirty, and they refer to the onset of menstruation as' coming dirty '. Furthermore, it evolved from a personal obsession with cleanliness to a sexual obsession with cleanliness towards any male, and then extended to a sexual obsession with cleanliness towards her husband after marriage. Some women with higher cultural levels mistakenly pursue spiritual cleanliness as a noble sentiment, even if they encounter obstacles without regret.

Male sex purists, on the other hand, are influenced by male superiority and female inferiority, believing that their sexual organs are clean while those of females are dirty. Women with a mentality of sexual crimes have a strong sense of female chastity and a strong feudal ideology of 'one woman does not obey two husbands' in their minds. After remarriage, this feudal ideology during sexual intercourse reflects the psychological barriers of sexual sin through tension and unease. Their purpose in sharing their ex husband's sexual history with their future husband is actually to express their unwillingness to have sex in the past by stating that their ex husband was selfish and did not enjoy the pleasure of sex. They aim to weaken their sexual guilt mentality, seek forgiveness from their future husband, and alleviate their psychological pressure.

To prevent and correct these two types of sexual psychological disorders, it is necessary to actively promote knowledge of sexual physiology and psychology. It is important to recognize that sexual activity between couples is a normal behavior. If you feel disgust, reluctance, and remorse during kissing, caressing, and sexual intercourse between couples, you should not just look at the emotional issues of the couple, but should consider whether you have sexual psychological disorders. If necessary, you can consult a doctor at a psychological counseling clinic or use psychological desensitization therapy to replace sexual cleanliness with positive sexual enthusiasm. To observe and familiarize oneself and the other party's sexual organs, so that sexual life can become a common need for couples.

For wives who have a sexual sin mentality, husbands should pay attention to their wording when speaking to avoid topics that may cause misunderstandings and promote sexual sin mentality, such as chastity and chastity. Secondly, when your wife is in a good mood, tell her that you will never discriminate against or underestimate her because of her remarriage; Efforts should be made to enhance mutual understanding and the relationship between husband and wife, so that the wife can let go of her mental burden and eliminate tension and fear. In this way, we can correct the psychological barriers of sexual sin in our wives and gradually achieve harmony and coordination in sexual life.