What sincere words do men have? Let's take a closer look.
1. Truly loving a man
When love is built solely on unilateral needs and feelings, it is like a fragile glass ball that shatters upon collision. However, when women are able to admit that all emotional difficulties stem from each other's attempts to understand and like each other better, men no longer become the only inconsiderate and unwilling partner in a sexual relationship.
The meaning of 'truly loving a man' is to avoid criticizing his motivation to love you; Avoid placing him in the gender category - for example, being picky about men always doing this, men always doing that; Understand his abilities and avoid asking him to give more than he can; And to avoid unfairly shifting responsibility onto him when there are problems in the relationship.
2. Don't accuse me of nitpicking
After chatting with hundreds of men about their ideal intimate relationships, the following 'men's manifesto' was collected:
When I mention that she makes me feel stressed, she can readily accept it without accusing me of nitpicking or not loving her. I hope she can bring our relationship closer according to the methods we discussed
She can admit that she also has a selfish side. I am not the only person who is self-centered, and her own efforts in love are limited. Sometimes she only uses me to meet her requirements. In addition, I do not want her subconscious to hide some stereotypes and negative feelings about men
3. She knows that communication should be two-way
She knows that communication should be two-way. After our argument, we can calmly discuss the reasons, and I hope she knows that my intense reaction was partially influenced by her. I don't want to be referred to as the 'problematic party' or 'not knowing how to love someone'
She loves the true me, not the perfect me in her fantasies. I don't want to just satisfy her romantic fantasies because I know that reality is not like this, and the result may make her even more disappointed
She will not sacrifice anything else around her for me or our relationship; because doing so will make me feel compelled to give more than I am willing to give. In other words, I hope the woman I love can understand that when I give less than she expects, it may not be my fault
4. She can allow me to have my own opinion
She can allow me to have my own opinions and won't force me to change them if she thinks my opinions are inappropriate. When encountering problems, she can fight side by side with me; when we have disputes, she can see it as a communication method to bring each other closer, rather than thinking that I am asking questions to find trouble
She won't overly demand that I surpass my own abilities to make her happy. I also don't want her to change herself to cater to me, and I want me to be responsible for her sacrifice, "she said. I don't want to constantly guess her thoughts. Is she unhappy now? When a problem arises, being informed of its existence is not enough; I would prefer her to work with me to solve the problem
5. Separation due to understanding
Postscript: It is believed that when women understand the struggles men face in sexual relationships and traditional sexual relationships are gradually changing, love will also make both parties feel more satisfied. In fact, a happy sexual relationship not only enables both parties to enjoy a healthy life, but also frees them from the tragedy of long-term separation between the sexes due to understanding.
6. She can give me what I hope to get
I may be someone who is more self centered, but I don't want my motives to be misunderstood, and I don't want to be seen as not valuing this relationship when I do something wrong; Not what she wants me to get.