Post Date November, 16 2024
True Romance
Chen and her boyfriend didn't live together until after marriage, and the wedding was so luxurious that they could surprise millionaires. A month later, she said they were discussing divorce - a fact that proved that marriage was not as good as she had imagined. The first few weeks were indeed not bad. It was like a family, "Chen recalled," but soon the novelty disappeared, and we began to understand what true marriage is - a lot of annoying trivialities. Who should be responsible for breaking even? Should we invest some of our savings in the stock market? Our romantic relationship was not enough to withstand such severe problems
Not having sex today - or never having sex again
Even if you can tolerate his flaws, living together every day has another drawback - the dull bedroom life. At first, we were always having sex, "Su and her boyfriend have been living together for a year. Now we're lying down watching the 10 pm news program. When a single friend told me her interesting stories, I thought we used to be like this. We've become old wives now - but we're not married yet
Cohabitation has greatly improved relationships, and soon you will find that attraction has disappeared. It's a good thing to realize that our relationship is not as attractive as it is, but wouldn't it be better to realize this before moving together.
Fun Stories about Money
Many couples are frustrated with the issue of money, but at least with a marriage relationship as a prerequisite, the issue of money is less complex. Most couples use a joint account to pay bills, reserve insurance, and purchase things that belong to both of you. After cohabitation, the issue of money quickly arises because you still treat it like a pure roommate - but you are not a platonic type of spiritual lover. Who pays the workers when the toilet is blocked? What if you blocked the water pipe because of your hair? If his salary increases, will he have to pay more for the room.
Xiao Wang and his girlfriend encountered such a problem. He has recently found a job with a higher salary, and it seems that it is a matter of heaven and earth to ask him to pay more for his room. However, the new consumption consumed his extra money. They argue almost every day, and now, no one wants to talk to anyone.
Divorce before marriage
No matter what kind of relationship it is, breaking it off is always difficult, but breaking off a relationship with someone who shares a room with you is a real estate nightmare. When Jie learned that her cohabiting boyfriend was sleeping with her best friend, she was shocked to find that she couldn't leave due to a series of issues such as rent. Jie had to live with her boyfriend until the house expired. They drew a line in the middle of the house, separated by a curtain wall, and lived on their own side. Jie said, "I'm wasting my youth living with a man who doesn't want to marry me. Our relationship is over, but I'm really fed up with having to live with him because of the house
Cohabitation signal
The situation of Jie illustrates a common trap of cohabitation, which we may refer to as the cohabitation transition. One is satisfied as long as they live together, while the other wants to get married. Cohabitation can be a compromise, but it will become increasingly difficult. Your boyfriend will be surprised why a marriage contract is so important to you. And you have become accustomed to living with him, and breaking up seems to be even more difficult than cohabiting. You are already on the brink of cohabitation, unable to move forward or unwilling to retreat.
Mei and her boyfriend are cautious about living together. Marriage doesn't mean much to Mei's boyfriend. Mei eventually became someone else's wife, but many people hesitated and just lived together, living on the uncertain and unhappy edge of cohabitation.
Is it a scene of improvisation
The most unstable factor in cohabitation may be the term itself. It sounds careless and insecure. Whether it's a freshman or a prisoner, any two people can do this. Cohabitation does not require emotional support, rituals, or vows - there is no guarantee of solidarity in times of adversity. Mr. Li is already married, but he has lived with his ex girlfriend for 5 years before. He said, "It's not enough to think that your relationship is as strong as marriage just because your names appear together in the email. When we say our vows at the wedding, it shocked me - we're married, and for many years, I've always thought a funny piece of contract does mean something. Without it, you're just playing house by house - a wonderful way to put your relationship to a dead end
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
