Unexpectedly, I found a secret hidden in my wife's bag. After the truth was revealed, I was deeply distressed

My wife and I have been married for four years. After we were together, she did some small business. I am an office worker. She has a strong personality and I am gentle. I usually listen to her. At first, our relationship was quite good. But when I came home on the National Day this year, I found that she had an affair.

One day, I wanted to cut my nails and get a nail clipper from her bag, but I accidentally found a man's love letter and two real-name train tickets in her bag. So I secretly read the contents of the letter, which roughly means that she and the man went to Yunnan for a trip together and had a good time and felt like a honeymoon. Then, the man and she also said some promises not to leave forever, and asked my wife to marry him. He would always be good to her, and so on. These are what I saw at the eleventh hour. Later, I was so depressed that I had a showdown with my wife to expose the matter.

Then, my wife also asked me, "Can this thing be over?"? I said I could go there. Then she admitted that she was sorry for me. She asked me what I thought, and I said, I still want to continue to live with her. The wife didn't say anything, just said that she would not let me pester her all the time and let me go back to work. I am now working in other places, and she has opened a shop at home. Recently, she has been living apart. I go home once or twice a month.

When she came home recently, she divorced me and said she was going to marry that man. I was very painful in front of her. I begged her not to leave me. I know my wife's lover's ID number number and he is from our hometown, but I didn't check it. Do I want to check it now? Do you need to talk to that man? What should I do to keep my wife? I really don't know how to make her not leave me? Could you give me a suggestion?

reply:

1. Nothing is impossible, only unexpected. Everyone can't predict what will happen in the next second of life. As far as you are concerned, your wife's bag is like an untouchable minefield, because you accidentally touch it, resulting in unexpected disasters. In fact, do you really have no premonition of such a result? If it is really unexpected, then either you are careless or your wife is too deep.

2. Perhaps, neither life nor love world can escape a change. In fact, when you think about it carefully, nothing in this world is unchangeable. The only unchangeable thing on this earth is change. In the face of the current reality, maybe you are heartache, maybe you are confused, but it is still your most needed state to have the courage to face up to what has happened. In the field of emotion, it is so unpredictable, because people can change. Since your wife's infidelity or betrayal has been discovered by you, if peace talks fail, you can only let it be, and excessive retention can only expose your weakness. In fact, you are a weak and incompetent man. You can't lose yourself and the bottom line because of a feeling.

3. After all, your wife is at fault. She is not loyal to you first, and she is sorry for you. Why beg her so humbly? If she wants to leave, let her leave. If she thinks the man is good, let her go to the man. Think about it. What good does she have? What does she give you besides wearing a green hat? As a man, love should be magnanimous and have the dignity and backbone of love. Don't expect a tree to be hanged. As for speaking, do you want to talk to that man? In your current state, what can you talk about? If you can't get it right, you have to be taunted or even beaten. Is it necessary? The women you love have been determined to leave you. Do you find that man to beg for mercy? Don't ask for trouble or trouble. I don't think it's worth it.

4. As for people, you should have the self-knowledge. Don't waste energy and time on things you can't save. Have the spirit to manage yourself, manage your life, reflect on what you have done, and reflect on where you have lost? This is what you need to do at present. When you are competitive enough, you will naturally reap the happiness you want. After all, you are not good enough. Otherwise, how can others treat you with such disrespect and don't cherish you? Find out more from yourself. Those who can make up their minds to leave you are not yours after all, and those who can truly appreciate you are worthy of your retention and cherish.