Post Date December, 03 2023
Times are slowly changing, and there are more and more people who believe that they don't need to get married. I don't think there's anything wrong with being single, nor do I think marriage is necessary to live in this era, but many people can say loudly that being single can also be good, who needs a man at the same time, or loudly that I just don't want to make do with it, just being with someone.
Perhaps it is someone like me who has been suffering for a long time because of being single from a mother and fetus, and who has only escaped after a severe death, who may have such a harsh idea, but seriously, how many people can choose to be single?
The reason why there are more and more single people in this generation is actually that people want more and more things, but their ability to maintain relationships or socialize is getting worse. Let's first define what it means to choose to be single. Choosing to be single, as the name implies, is that I have a choice. I can actually not be single, but not with someone I don't want. If I can choose not to be single, but only the people I don't want, is that still a true choice?
"Being single can also be good. The concept behind the phrase" Who needs a man? "Refers to the fact that being single is not good in principle, but if you truly believe that being single is good, nine out of ten people won't shout loudly. These loud announcements are actually just convincing yourself.".
Just like those of us who drink water every day, we don't think drinking water is a very precious thing, but it's just for granted. No one will talk about taking things for granted.
Women don't need men in the first place (similarly, men don't need women in the first place). Except for the years when we were born, we may die without someone else to take care of us. As we survive, we can still live without anyone.
After many people take our classes, there is a question why we still make boyfriend and girlfriend since we have the ability to satisfy ourselves, but who says that two people must have needs for each other to be together? Two people who have the ability to make themselves happy and satisfied together. In most cases, couples who have a need for each other only consume each other. Neither of the two in need has the ability to give, and they only want to demand. Finally, they can only end the round with feeling bored, tired, or indifferent.
Whether single or two people, there are different aspects of happiness and hardship. Only when these two options are completely equal, can no one option be more attractive, perhaps we can call it choosing to be single or choosing to be together.
However, many people will use self comfort similar to being single to ignore the possibility that they may not have the ability to make the person they want want want them. "Or because you have a partner, try to assimilate (attack) or persuade single people to settle quickly. Many arguments may be about what to do when they get old.". "These people are likely to have a partner because they have their current partner due to age, pressure from life, and social perception. Perhaps only that person knows if they have truly made their life happier.".
However, people who are truly satisfied with their lives rarely want to assimilate others, because life has ups and downs. Only by understanding that everything is equal and that nothing is absolute can they find satisfaction and gratitude in an impermanent life.
I promise to take care of you when I have children? Is having a significant other guaranteed to lead a long life together? If you have a weak understanding of the impermanence of life and treat your spouse, children, and family as security or even as a floating tree in the ocean of life that is not self-sufficient and empty, then no matter who you are, it must be very hard to be with such a person.
So do you choose to be single or just have to be single? Do you choose to be with someone, or do you have to be with someone?
