Post Date December, 02 2023
You cry, I'm busy
In fact, the daughter seldom uses crying as a means to achieve her goal, because she has never succeeded once. But after entering the small class, I saw the successful cases of my classmates, so I learned and used them. One day the family cooked porridge, but she had to cook noodles for her alone, and finally she lay on the ground.
Our family can do whatever we want and treat her as air. My mother was also very cooperative. She picked up the broom and swept the floor. When she reached the place where my daughter lay, she said to her, "Son, lie down a little. I want to sweep the floor. Don't stand in my way. I'll sweep you back."
So the daughter moved away and continued to cry. When my mother finished sweeping the floor, she asked her daughter to lie back in the original place. Unexpectedly, her two-and-a-half year-old daughter actually lay back and groan. After half an hour of working as a daughter in the air, she finally found that other people's success stories did not work for her, so she got up and said, "I think the porridge is also very delicious", and then ran to eat the porridge.
Until now, I have never seen her lying on the ground crying as a means to achieve her goal. In fact, many behaviors of children are just tests. If they are stopped at the first time, the same behavior will not happen again.
Not eating is your own loss, not others'
The child quarreled with me before dinner, put his bowl on the table, and said angrily, "I'm tired of seeing you. I won't eat any more.". I immediately said, "Yes, but you can't eat anything until the next meal."
The daughter began to feel guilty and said, "I'm not saying I won't eat, but I won't eat with you. I'll eat after you finish eating.".
I answered her, "Either eat together now, or you can save it for the next meal. There is no third choice.". As a result, she left in a huff.
When we finished eating and put the table away, we began to discuss with a smile: "How can there be such a silly person who can't eat to intimidate others? It's not others who are hungry when they don't eat. They laugh to death, and even threaten others when they are hungry..."
So at the price of a hungry meal, the daughter realized that it was foolish to threaten others by hurting herself. Similar things never happened in her life again.
Harvest happiness after sharing
When my daughter was less than two years old, her grandmother often fried shrimps for her to eat. Once I saw it, I took some chopsticks and tasted it. My daughter was very upset that I ate her shrimps. I told her who said it was your shrimp, so I picked up the spoon and ate two spoons. When my daughter reacted, she scrambled to grab it from me, but how could she win me
The daughter looked at the empty shrimp bowl and shed tears. I took the opportunity to tell her: "Anyone can eat anything. Nothing belongs to you alone. Everyone can eat whatever they want.".
From that day on, I will share half of what she likes. Children are good at teaching. She soon got used to sharing with others.
Sometimes when we see something she especially likes to eat, we want her to eat more. We will say, "I can't bite it with toothache, or I don't like it very much" and other seemingly reasonable excuses. Please help me eat it. Be sure to beg her to make her feel that she is helping you, and then her daughter will eat happily, which is unexpected happiness.
If you don't learn to share, the child will think it is his due and won't feel happy; And children who are used to sharing will feel surprised and happy even if they eat one more bite. Eating less will not have an impact on life. The mentality of sharing and easy to get happiness will benefit children for life.
Limited toys, unlimited fun
The daughter's toys from small to large are extremely limited, and there are basically no electric toys. All toys can be packed in a big bag. The reason why there are so few toys is not because of economic reasons, but because the less toys children have, the simpler they are, the easier they are to concentrate, the richer their imagination is, and the more they know how to cherish things.
Children like to play with water, and my daughter is no exception. My condition is: play with water, but only in the bathroom, and clean the bathroom after playing. A small bucket, a basin, an empty coke bottle, and a funnel can kill the whole afternoon with a small spoon.
In the small class, the daughter can sit there for an hour or two and concentrate on one thing.
Face the pain after falling
The daughter fell outside and found that her skin was broken and bleeding after climbing up. She was nervous and would cry. After squatting down to observe, I said to her with a smile, "Oh, the tomato juice is flowing out. Let's go back and stop it with paper towels. Don't waste Ao.". After listening, my daughter's tense nerves relaxed immediately.
When I got home, I took out alcohol to disinfect her. First, I explained to her that this is for disinfection. It may be painful to wipe it on the broken skin. But if you can't bear the pain, the wound may be infected, and it will be more painful after infection. The daughter thought for a while and said, "Then you can disinfect it. I can bear it.".
Children's crying and resistance may be more due to fear of unknown injury than pain. So don't think that children are young and can be cheated. They will remember that you cheated and won't trust you. It won't be easy to cheat again next time. Don't underestimate the children's ability to bear. To tell the truth will make them trust you more and prepare them for possible pain. They are actually small creatures who can endure pain.
