Post Date December, 03 2023
We often hear people say, 'This person is tough enough!' At first glance, this sentence seems to be insulting. But in reality, this sentence is a compliment. Why? Because if he is not ruthless enough, then he cannot achieve great things, so the implicit meaning of "this person is ruthless enough" is actually "this person is really promising". On the contrary, when we hear someone evaluate that 'this person is too weak', the implicit meaning is' this person has little potential ', just saying it in a more gentle tone. Therefore, as a man, you must learn to be ruthless, otherwise you will be destined to achieve nothing in your life.
What's wrong with men being 'evil'
Everyone likes' good people 'and welcomes' good people'. Because 'good people' are not aggressive and do not harm others, and sometimes they even make themselves suffer for others!
But the weakness of most good people lies in their lack of principles, assertiveness, and inability to persist, which is the taboo of standing out.
Half of a good person is due to personality factors, while the other half is intentionally trying to please others, resulting in a response to every request. Due to a lack of principles and perseverance, it is difficult to distinguish right from wrong. When things cannot be solved, they sacrifice themselves to "fulfill" everyone; Sometimes I also want to be a bit "evil", but there is still a long way to go from "evil", so I start to blame myself and examine whether I should not do this
A 'good person' will not be respected by others, let alone 'afraid'. In the eyes of everyone, it is difficult to take on great responsibilities, and others are well aware of his weaknesses. They will calculate on him, take whatever he wants, and he will not resist or refuse. So everyone moved forward, but this' bad guy 'stood still, let alone stand out?
Some people like to choose to be good, while others like to be evil. So what kind of help would 'evil' have for oneself?
Firstly, although some of the 'evil' may be annoying, it triumphs over having authority. Many people are driven by necessity, and in this way, "favoring evil" will be much more effective in making others work for them than "favoring good". People who do not speak of human kindness may not be loved, but they are even more capable of making mistakes.
This is the first benefit of being a 'villain'.
Secondly, many people do not like socializing and only want to do things quietly, so the image of 'evil' will have an appropriate deterrent effect, reducing your socializing to the minimum and earning peace.
Thirdly, good people tend to smile at others, leading to flattery and flattery, while "villains" tend to portray a serious, awe inspiring image with a straight face.
From the above three considerations, it can be imagined that many "villains", although not inherently bad, have to pretend to be "villains" based on their needs to act.
As long as the benefits of being a 'villain' outweigh the disadvantages of being a 'villain', being a villain is worth it. In fact, the downside of being a 'villain' is simply to offend the public and have fewer friends.
However, pretending to be a 'villain' is far more difficult than pretending to be a good person. Whether it is a real bad person or a fake bad person, the first thing to do is to have an appearance of 'evil', so we can start with the appearance.
A good person can completely pretend, but pretending to be a bad person requires three parts of evil to succeed.
Living in the real world, we cannot give others the impression of being weak and deceptive. Otherwise, it will be difficult for us to protect ourselves and obtain the benefits we deserve in real life. So, we may as well put on the cloak of "evil" for ourselves in good faith, and make ourselves strong in the eyes of others. In this way, we will not become lambs to be slaughtered by others, but rather become strong individuals with the ability to engage in social competition.
2. Being alive is the absolute principle
I have a pair of good friends who eat and chat. One of them was overjoyed and accidentally uttered an unpleasant sentence. Unexpectedly, the other person carefully analyzed it and became unhappy. They argued with each other until they overturned the table and left with their sleeves.
In our daily lives, such examples are not uncommon. When we think about them carefully, of course, it's a small loss that outweighs the gain. It has to be said that they are a bit stingy and care too much about trivial matters. In fact, these people's troubles are not caused by big things, many of them come from being overly concerned, calculating, and taking things seriously around them.
For example, in some people, they like to ponder over what others say, and even more complain about their mistakes; I am fond of my own gains and losses, extremely sensitive to everything around me, and always distort and exaggerate external information. This type of person is actually using a narrow and childish cognitive approach to create a terrifying spiritual prison for themselves, which is completely self seeking. They not only make themselves tired, but also make the people around them feel helpless, so they weave a painful life for themselves.
You should know that once the habit of being overly concerned and calculating in life is developed, over time, many small troubles will turn into big troubles.
In fact, the wise men of ancient times have already had a clear and profound understanding of this point. More than 2000 years ago, Pericles, an Athenian politician, warned people: "Attention, gentlemen, we are too busy with trivial matters!", French writer Maurois once again profoundly pointed out, "We are often distracted by trivial things that should be quickly forgotten and lose our sanity. We have only lived in this world for a few decades, yet we have wasted a lot of precious time entangled in trivial things." These words are truly thought-provoking. The habit of paying too much attention to trivial matters seriously affects the quality of life and makes life lose its luster. Obviously, this is the dumbest choice.
One thing, if you understand it, it's heaven, but if you don't understand it, it's hell. Since you are alive, you must live well. In fact, whether something can cause trouble and trouble depends entirely on how we view and handle it ourselves. The saying goes that it all depends on human factors, but the results are vastly different. American psychologist David Burns proposed a "cognitive therapy" to eliminate worries - by changing people's way of understanding and reacting to things to avoid troubles and diseases. This requires us to first learn not to pay too much attention and learn to change our way of thinking to face everything in front of us.
Don't care, just don't always take everything seriously, don't get too picky, don't take face too seriously, don't take everything seriously and be cautious; Don't take those trivial things to heart; Don't overestimate the gains and losses of fame and profit; Don't get impatient and angry about small things, often shouting and shouting, so that you may lose out on small things and regret later; Don't be so suspicious and sensitive, always misinterpreting others' meanings; Don't exaggerate the facts and create imaginary enemies; Don't classify the opposite sex who is speaking to your lover as a "third party" and secretly hate them; Don't cry when you see flowers, listen to music, or be sentimental like Lin Daiyu, always feeling sorry for yourself. You know, sometimes life really needs a bit of grandeur.
Not caring is also setting up a psychological defense line for oneself. Not only do I not actively create annoying information that comes from my stimulation, but even when faced with some truly negative information or unpleasant things, I should remain calm, ignore them, and ignore them. I should achieve "a stable body like a mountain, a calm mind like a still water", and "let the wind and waves rise, sit steadily on the fishing platform".
This is not only a clever method of self-protection, but also a good strategy to stick to goals and eliminate interference. After all, our energy is limited. If we are constantly entangled in trivial matters and burdened with them, we will surely achieve nothing in our lifetime.
Not caring is also a kind of open-mindedness, magnanimity, and tolerance. The sea embraces all rivers, and the capacity is great. Having a broad mind and magnanimity is easy to bid farewell to trivialities and mediocrity. And when you achieve open-mindedness and tolerance, it will naturally generate a relaxed humor, thus exuding a charm of character.
Not caring, what ultimately manifests is a kind of cultivation, a noble personality, and a great wisdom in life. Those who always argue and haggle with others, thinking they are very smart, actually do big foolish things with small intelligence, take advantage of small advantages and cause big troubles; Without caring, it is not arguing, doing nothing, being wise and foolish, and having endless joy!
Of course, not caring is not equivalent to avoiding reality, not being numb or indifferent, not the spiritual decadence and passive seclusion after seeing through the world; Not an outsider who is indifferent and indifferent to everything. But rather a carefree, open-minded, and elegant lifestyle strategy adopted on the way to the big goal. If so, one will naturally have a happy and wonderful life.
