Post Date December, 03 2023
Between husband and wife, bumps and bumps are inevitable, and quarrels are absolutely inevitable. But the quarrel between husband and wife is learned, and we should also pay attention to it. Some things and words must not appear in the quarrel.
So, what can't be done in a quarrel between husband and wife?
1. Don't argue in front of outsiders
Some problems can't be solved by quarreling in front of others, but will fuel the fire. When quarreling in front of others, both sides must be ashamed and unwilling to show weakness, which often leads to the final situation difficult to clean up.
Therefore, good couples should remember that in front of friends and family, they should save enough face for their lovers.
2. Don't quarrel when the other party is weak
The quarrel also has a certain timeliness. If the other party is ill, or in low mood, or in a bad situation at work, you will only deepen the conflict between the husband and wife if you quarrel with the other party and ask the other party for help.
When the other party is in a vulnerable stage, please put down all anger and take good care of and understand the TA.
3. Don't talk about divorce lightly
It is not easy for two people to come together to form a family. Don't say the word "divorce" easily. Especially when we talk about divorce when arguing, because of impulse, we will inevitably make the wrong choice and make ourselves regret for life. Couple is no longer a matter of two people, but a whole. Don't give up easily.
4. Stop hurting parents and family of the other party when quarrelling
When a husband and wife quarrel, they should not hurt their parents and family members. They should not abuse each other, let alone the other's family members. This is absolutely necessary to give up.
Take heart to heart, respect each other's family, treat their relatives sincerely, and they will appreciate you from the heart and love you more.
5. Stop turning over the old accounts of the other party
Some couples like to turn over each other's old accounts when quarrelling, which is also the most foolish behavior of a couple's quarrel. For example, the mistakes made by the other party in the past, or the previous lovers of the other party, will increase the intensity of the quarrel, resulting in deeper and deeper conflicts.
One yard is one yard. You can't shake out all the rotten corn and sesame seeds in a quarrel. It was a small matter, but the result became more and more complicated.
6. Don't smash things when fighting
Don't smash things when quarreling. The quarrel is loud, and with the sound of broken objects, it is too dramatic. It will disturb the neighbors and scare the children. What's more, it's all my money that I broke. I have to clean the mess by myself. I have to be polite when arguing.
If you can't help it, throw the pillow. Don't let the two loving hearts fall apart in the harsh crash.
7. Don't say anything that hurts others
Many people often speak freely when quarrelling, and often compare their wives and husbands with others.
”You see how capable other people's husbands are, and you are really a loser! "
"Look at how virtuous their wives are. You can't do anything!"
……
These words will only destroy the confidence of the other party. To love each other sincerely, we should refuse to hurt each other!
8. Don't threaten with death
Some couples quarrel and often say "die".
"What else do I mean by living?"
"I don't want to live!"
"I will die for you!"
This is very stupid. Don't say such angry words to hurt their feelings.
9. Stop beating people
When quarrelling, you must take good care of your hands, and even in anger, you must have the least control. A slap in the face may destroy the feelings of many years and bring the unbearable feelings of both sides.
Hands touch the skin and flesh, but hurt the heart. The skin and flesh wounds are easy to heal, but the cracks in the heart are hard to repair. No matter how angry you are, remember that impulse is the devil!
10. Don't quarrel in front of your children
Avoid children when quarrelling. It is the matter of two people to quarrel between husband and wife. Children are innocent. Let children see their parents quarreling, which can leave a shadow in their young hearts, and affect their attitudes towards marriage even after they grow up.
The relationship between parents is the place of children's sense of security, which cannot be replaced by any material life. If children cannot enjoy the atmosphere and feeling of love at home, their parents' behavior will unknowingly hurt the next generation.
