Post Date December, 02 2023
The first realm: Marry someone you love.
The second realm: Marry a loved one and his or her habits.
The third realm: Marry a loved one, his or her habits, and his or her background.
Couples in the first state have relatively stable marriages.
Couples in the second realm have a relatively stable marriage.
Couples in the third level rarely see divorces.
Real marriages often happen in the last two times.
Nowadays, many people get divorced after two or three years of marriage. If you carefully analyze it, you will find that the reason is that they have not pushed their marriage from the first level to the second level.
As everyone knows, boiling water can kill bacteria. Like boiling water, passionate love can also kill the shortcomings and shortcomings of the person concerned.
Those who are infallibly in love with Prince Charming and the little girl who is attached to each other, enter the tepid water of marriage, and their shortcomings and shortcomings will come back like bacteria.
At this point, you must step into the second stage of marriage, marry his or her habits, and accept and tolerate his or her shortcomings and shortcomings. Otherwise, marriage will shrink due to shallow roots.
Those originally very loving couples inexplicably divorced a few years later. Nine out of ten are the result of refusing to enter the second realm.
After marriage enters the second stage, few people talk about divorce. Psychologically, they have accepted the shortcomings of each other's personality. Some even turn the other party's shortcomings into their own concern.
At this time, marriage is sweet and warm, showing the greatest characteristics of tolerance and complementarity.
However, the warmth of marriage does not represent the stability of marriage. A solid marriage also requires a third sublimation, which is to marry each other's various family relationships.
In other words, extend your love for him or her to his or her parents, relatives, and friends. And in this love, I have a wise understanding of marriage:
Your other half doesn't just belong to you, he or she also belongs to his or her parents and friends, and even belongs to himself or herself. Once marriage enters this state, it also enters a state of meditation, making it very difficult to separate.
In the world of love, many men often misunderstand that marriage is about marrying a woman, ignoring the pursuit of the woman herself and the background behind her.
Many women misunderstand that marriage is about marrying a man, without knowing the habits and personality of the man they want to marry, as well as the family behind the man. This cognitive mistake has led us to see many broken marriages in this world.
