Post Date December, 03 2023
Mr. Wang Guowei once said that in ancient and modern times, those who achieve great success and great knowledge must go through three different realms. Of course, Mr. Wang Guowei should not have included the relationship between husband and wife in the so-called great cause and university inquiry.
However, the relationship between spouses is also a major issue, so today we would like to follow Mr. Wang's classic statement to elaborate on the three levels that couples should achieve when getting along.
Last night, the west wind withered the green trees, and I climbed the tall buildings alone, gazing at the distant paths of the earth
The first level is to break free from the various disturbances of reality, eliminate all self attachments, including pain and joy, reputation, interests, gains and losses, break free from all personal thoughts, and achieve a state of emptiness in one's heart.
The first level that couples need to reach is to get rid of various disputes. If we cannot achieve this in marriage yet, then disputes between spouses will inevitably continue.
You can't abandon "egotism" and learn to get along after marriage. You always tell your private thoughts to each other without realizing that you are no longer a person after marriage. You should have family awareness and collective consciousness.
As my belt widens, I will never regret it, and I will wear it out for you
The second realm is the aesthetic grasp of the aesthetic object, where the aesthetic subject has a spirit of choice, stubbornness, and lifelong regret, exploring the beauty of things.
After we have decided to choose our own partner, if there is no special reason, then I should know how to cherish each other and cherish this hard-earned relationship. Instead of just looking at things in a flash, if we still see someone like one after marriage, we should be prepared and have the spirit of not regretting. Only in this way will your marriage be solid and not let any 'mistresses' have a chance to take advantage of it.
I searched for him thousands of times in the crowd, but when I turned around, I suddenly saw that person in the dim light
The third realm is epiphany. After the first and second stages of hard pursuit, the author is able to express things exquisitely in the clearest language, as if they were natural. At this point, the author's mood reached a state of no desire, no thought, no joy, no worry, and gained wisdom Must Know: Three Rules for Enhancing Couple Relationships
The final state can be said to be the sublimation and summary of the first two states. The third realm is specifically manifested in the joy of obtaining a bountiful harvest after marriage. When you no longer worry about whether you will be selfish in marriage or whether you will remain steadfast, you realize that your efforts have already yielded fruitful results that will make you happy for a lifetime.
These achievements may be due to seeing someone who will go through life and death for you, truly love and understand you with all their heart.
After reaching these three levels of marriage, all conflicts will be resolved, and you will hold onto the other party's hand in the third level, never tire of it for a hundred years.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
