Post Date December, 03 2023
Some friends may feel that a relationship should give each other trust rather than suspicion all day, which is indeed true. However, with the increasing rate of derailment and the overwhelming temptation from the outside world, we have to take precautions. If men experience these abnormal situations for a long time, you may have to raise your spirits!
1. The number of times to contact you varies from close to sparse
Properly creating a sense of alienation is a small dose of insurance in love, but if he has been like this for a long time and the transition is sudden, then you may need to be careful and alert whether he has an affair.
"When he answers the phone, he always cackles perfunctorily, even adjusting the volume button next to his phone, and the number of times he actively contacts you has plummeted.". "Or if some phones can be answered generously in front of you, while others deliberately avoid you answering them, it indicates that they may have a ghost in mind.".
2. Sudden changes in external and internal images
Previously, he was clearly slovenly and unkempt, but suddenly he consciously began to adjust his external and internal image, paying attention to the way he dressed, and even went for a new hairstyle.
"Usually, for the sake of his health, I often urge him to go to exercise without listening, so I buy a set of sports clothes myself and run every morning just to lose my beer belly.". Such abnormality must be stimulated by something.
3. More overtime and business trips
Men who cheat not only need to take care of their work and family, but also need to leave a certain amount of time for their third mistress to have a romantic date and enjoy the freshness of their relationship, as this naturally prevents them from returning home on time.
When a woman sends a WeChat or calls to inquire, he will be very arrogant and throw out an excuse to work overtime. Usually, he clearly hates working overtime, and often stays at the company to work overtime. "Or when on a business trip, I used to tell you how many days to go, where to live, and what to do, but now if you ask a little bit, he will still annoy you and say he doesn't need to care if he goes.". As a result, I couldn't get in touch when I was on a business trip.
4. Increased unknown expenses
For men who have an affair, it is necessary to make their mistress happy by giving gifts and dating. It is a routine that most men follow when cheating. In order to retain this love affair, men have to work harder to make money while hiding more private money from their partner. They used to generously hand over their wages, but now they always find various excuses to give less if they can.
The most frightening thing is that in order to cheat, even some men would hesitate to save money for cigarettes and alcohol. Money is spent where you can't see it!
5. Don't take dating between you guys so seriously
"You two may have specific dates, and once a boyfriend or husband has an affair, they may become indifferent to such dates, change from happy to perfunctory, and even find excuses to evade rejection.".
"I used to buy this and that on anniversaries and birthdays, but now I often say, 'What gifts do I still give to my old husband and wife?' Or I simply forget!"!
6. Pay special attention to your phone
Mobile phones, as the most convenient tool for communication, can be used as a tool for committing crimes once they are unfaithful. If he always intentionally or unintentionally puts his mobile phone in a place where he can see it at any time, such as when taking a shower, he usually casually throws it outside, but now he also brings it in to wash with him, and when changing clothes, he used to ask where your mobile phone is, but now he definitely stays by his side.
Once you approach your phone or have a desire to check, they will suddenly become irritable and impatient: "Are you doubting me?" This offensive statement is likely due to their lack of heart.
7. Sudden change of address for you
There are always some exclusive names between lovers. Previously, they would always call you something, darling, sweetheart, but suddenly one day, he came up with a new name, "Baby, Baby," and he always called it unconsciously, trying to cover up his own unnatural behavior.
At this time, it is necessary to observe their expressions. If there is something wrong, it may be because the new nickname is a small secret between him and his new lover.
8. Changes in WeChat or regular chat
I don't know if you have this feeling. When you get along with another person for a long time, you will always be subtly affected and become somewhat "like her", especially when talking and chatting.
Previously, as a sullen gourd, he only used to express his emotions with hehe. Now, he suddenly learned various vocabulary words such as hehe, haha, miaoda, etc. that you have never seen before, and even took the initiative to tell jokes, resulting in sudden and huge changes.
9. I forgot about my plans
"Let's travel to XX together in XX years!"
"Let's have a baby together in XX years!"
......
Once upon a time, when he mentioned these plans and the future of both of them, he was always enthusiastic and rubbing his hands. "But now, if you suddenly mention it again, he is likely to say, 'I've forgotten all about it. I'll just make amends to you perfunctorily, or simply make excuses not to achieve it, because he's no longer interested in these things.'".
10. You're no longer seductive to him
Whether in daily life or in bed. He began to become increasingly stiff, awkward, and unwilling. "Even when you take the initiative to attack, pour cold water and say, 'I'm a bit tired today, come another day.'"
Occasional refusals may be genuine work fatigue, while frequent ones indicate that you have lost your attraction to him, and his body may already belong to another person.
Perhaps even the object that I miss so much is no longer you!
summary
Being able to go with someone is not a simple matter. There are too many people who promise, but only a few who can promise.
A girl cried and complained to me after her boyfriend cheated on her. She said why she treated him so well and ended up like this, which simply doesn't make sense.
Emotional change is such a "barbaric" thing that cannot be reasoned with you in any way. It can ferment slowly or be impulsive.
Some people always feel that getting married is an intangible "guarantee", but in fact it does not bring any guarantee. What you should be loyal to is not the other party, but our choice and the relationship we have chosen together.
