The seven-year itch has speeded up cheating, accounting for 50% of the divorce demography

The term 'seven year itch' is not unfamiliar to everyone, as it comes from a difficult to treat skin disease that can last for up to seven years. The 'seven year itch' between couples does not necessarily mean that they will cheat within seven years, but rather that at precisely this point in time, the number of cheats is the highest. Getting along with two people and living together every day requires adjustment, but as long as this stage is passed, the relationship between the two parties becomes stable. How many couples in the world can overcome this nightmare like 'seven year itch'?

The latest set of data points out that China's divorce demography has risen for 12 years. According to the data of Sichuan Civil Affairs Department, in 2014, there were 774200 couples registered for marriage, and 229600 couples divorced, which is equivalent to two couples divorce every minute. Experts have analyzed that half of the reasons for divorce are due to extramarital affairs.

When it comes to the rise of the divorce demography, chat tools such as WeChat and Momo have "contributed a lot". Not only have the pictures of the original prostitutes been frequently exposed on the Internet, but these are not uncommon in our daily life.

The 'Seven Year Itch' has accelerated to five years

Nowadays, the 'seven year itch' we often refer to no longer exists. The latest data shows that between 3 and 5 years after marriage, both parties' happiness and marital satisfaction have reached their lowest levels. That is to say, the seven year itch has been elevated to the "five year itch". In the past, we used to say 'the seven year itch', so in people's minds, the seventh year of marriage seems like a hurdle. However, the actual situation is that the obstacles to marriage have already been advanced.

Today's divorce demography continues to rise, but also let us face up to today's problems. There are running in periods when two people get along. During these running in periods, problems appear continuously, which can be summarized as the following four types.

Transforming emotions into rationality towards the demands of the other party

Just got married and still dotes on each other. After five years of marriage, the relationship is in a stable period, and they no longer blindly spoil their partner. They become more rational due to future life considerations, and at this point, both parties may feel that there is a significant gap compared to before marriage, causing resentment. At this point, both parties need to communicate and understand each other, and never bury your inner thoughts in your heart, causing misunderstandings from the other party.

The arrival of the child triggers conflicts

A five-year marriage is enough to conceive a child, and the arrival of the child not only increases the financial burden, but also leads to frequent disputes between the couple about who will take care of the child and other issues. On the other hand, men and women have different perspectives and thoughts on things, which can lead to conflicts in education issues and lead to marital problems.

Less care than before

A man is someone who keeps his heart to heart, and a woman likes to speak out when she encounters something unpleasant. At this point, men feel immense pressure and need to put more effort into their careers. It is inevitable that there will be areas where their families cannot be taken care of, and their wives often complain about life, triggering conflicts.

The outside world is more attractive

Facing one person every day, three years can still bear it, but five years inevitably feel boring. In addition, with the popularity of some dating software in recent years, our hearts and eyes are constantly tempted. Looking at the unchanging person at home in the blink of an eye, if we are a little cautious, we will "cheat".

Marriage is a wonderful thing, it connects two unrelated people together, giving birth to a small life from their bodies. This life not only contains the characteristics of the male partner, but also the characteristics of the female partner. Even if there are some big and small "tickles", as long as you live optimistically, you will find that life becomes better.