Post Date December, 02 2023
One of the bad temper traits: irritability and rudeness
Countermeasure: Use softness to overcome hardness
Many young men have a short temper and are inevitably rough with their partners because their male hormones are overproduced and closely related to their own experiences. When encountering such a lover, girls don't have to worry or get angry. Our magic weapon is to use softness to overcome hardness.
You're so angry, I'm so tender
Xu Rulan (female, 28 years old)
Leqing has a hot temper. When I first met him, I didn't think much of him. I just thought he often had a straight face. After six months of dating, I gradually realized that he was the kind of impatient man who easily caught fire. I remember one weekend, three colleagues and I went to the Workers' Stadium to watch the Yuquan concert. We booked tickets online in advance, and I told Leqing a few days in advance. But that Friday, before work, Leqing suddenly called and asked me to go to a friend's birthday party with him tonight. I said I had already arranged to go to a concert with my colleague, but his tone was full of displeasure and he asked why I didn't tell him earlier. I said I told you a long time ago, don't you forget? Now Leqing is in a hurry and says, "When did you tell me?" I can imagine his cold expression on the phone.
At around 11 pm, I returned from the workplace in high spirits. Before getting off the taxi, I saw Leqing waiting downstairs at my house. I quickly bid farewell to the male colleague who had dropped me off in the car. Unexpectedly, after seeing me, Leqing roared again. He asked me who I had gone to the concert with, who the man in the car was, and didn't even give me a chance to explain. The sound was loud enough to wake up all the neighbors upstairs, so I had to wait quietly for him to finish shouting.
To be honest, how many times have I been tempted by Leqing's bad temper? After thinking about it, I still feel that he has many advantages besides his bad temper. For example, he is upright and hardworking, and for example, he is honest, enthusiastic, kind, and loyal. Therefore, in the end, I decided to deal with his bad temper and become his lover.
However, dealing with his bad temper is not an easy task. When he gets angry, I firmly cannot get angry, otherwise we can only lose both ways; You cannot remain silent or speak coldly with a straight face, otherwise it will add fuel to the fire; I can't cry and cry, he's not the kind of man who would wipe my tears. He would only shout at my tears and make him headache and upset. As a result, I tried many methods and finally realized that only gentle and patient silence is the only strategy to deal with him.
Leqing's temper is like a fire. When I come up, I have to turn into a piece of ice, a piece of ice that cannot be melted. I cannot be angry, I cannot escape, I cannot confront, I say 'good' to all his accusations, I say 'sorry' to all his dissatisfaction, and I can only explain when he finishes burning this fire.
I have been in love with Leqing for over a year now, and my temper has been getting better and better. If it's not good, I can't. When dealing with lovers like Leqing, I can only be gentle to the end.
Bad temper number two: Yi Shi Qi Zhi
Coping method: shirking responsibility
Men with chauvinism are always in charge of everything, and whether their decisions are correct or not, it is inevitable that they may feel a bit angry. If we want to change him, it may not be possible. Instead, we should be smarter and choose to shirk responsibility. We should rely on him for big and small things, and let him take the initiative to change in front of his own mistakes.
It's better to comply than to correct
Bai Lian (female, 29 years old)
I am three years older than Haochuan, and I have much richer social experience and professional knowledge than him. Initially, I helped him because I couldn't see his monotonous and childish design plans, and the two of them became familiar with each other as a result. After falling in love, I realized that he actually dislikes my "help". Every time he gives a suggestion, I feel it's not appropriate, so I come up with another idea. As a result, he gets very angry, as if I have violated his authority.
Later on, I found out that this little man's chauvinism was quite serious. What did he want me to do? If I didn't do it, he would be unhappy and even find fault and argue with me. In the second year of our relationship, I broke up with him twice, but in the end, neither of us could bear to part with each other. There's no way, since I can't change him, I can only change myself. I obediently followed him time and time again, indulging him in doing wrong things with dissatisfaction. In fact, at the beginning, I didn't want to obey or watch him make mistakes, but the more arguments I had, the more tired I became. In order to avoid conflict, I had to endure obedience, simply out of sight and out of mind.
At first, Haochuan was quite satisfied with my transformation. He was proud and had a sense of satisfaction with being in power. But later, after several setbacks, he finally realized that he couldn't be a dictator. That was before the renovation of the new house. At that time, his parents asked us to chip in and renovate one of his idle old houses as a wedding new house.
In the face of such a major task as decoration, Haochuan takes care of everything. Anyway, the house belongs to your family, and you can toss and turn it around. I happen to enjoy leisure. When buying decoration materials, Haochuan proposed to buy the best. I handed over all the money I had accumulated in the past two years to him and said with a smile, "You will definitely give me the most beautiful new house. My confidant heard that we were going to decorate our house, so she told me to purchase home decoration materials from Dongfang Jiayuan online, with good quality and discounts. She also gave me a group purchase card from Dongfang Jiayuan. I called Haochuan, but he said he must personally choose. I didn't refute it, so I accompanied him to Dongfang Jiayuan over the weekend. When he finished buying everything and was ready to pick up the goods, I took out my group purchase card and casually asked the cashier, "Is there a discount on this card.
I pretended to be indifferent and asked, "Are online shopping also discounted?" The cashier replied, "80% off." Haochuan listened and his face became even worse. I didn't say a word, watching Haochuan turn into a defeated rooster and secretly enjoying myself. Later, during the renovation process, Haochuan chose the "big package" on his own. As a result, the construction team cut corners on small materials such as water valves and pipes. Before the renovation was over, the water valve in the bathroom cracked, and overnight, the wooden floor was completely soaked.
After this renovation, from the furniture and furnishings of the new house to determining the wedding date, Haochuan no longer makes his own decisions and comes to discuss everything with me. When two people have different opinions, he will also carefully consider and listen to my opinions.
Bad temper three: psychological rebellion
Coping method: using retreat as a means of progress
Nowadays, many young people are only children who have been spoiled and rebellious from a young age. When encountering such a lover, they get into trouble and do everything against you. You point fingers at them and they fight against each other. Faced with such lovers, you can only retreat and save the country with a curve.
Taking retreat as a means of progress to get rid of his bad temper
Wang Chuhan (female, 26 years old)
Ze is just a rebellious child. Although he is one year older than me, he loves to confront me no matter what I do. At the beginning of love, I thought it was just a way for him to express his love, but he has been in love for more than two years. He still looks like this, and I finally understand that he is such a bad tempered man with a serious rebellious mentality.
The first time I took Ze Zheng to see my mother, my mother said the first thing to Ze Zheng: "Okay, why did you just pierce a pair of ears and wear a pair of shiny earrings?" Although I explained to my mother that the students at the Academy of Fine Arts dress strangely, my mother stopped saying anything, Ze Zheng was still angry.
After coming out of my house, he went straight to a non mainstream jewelry store and bought a pair of terrifyingly large earrings to wear on his ears. When he saw me home after shopping at night, he deliberately sent me upstairs. I knew his intention was to show my mother that pair of big earrings. Another time, Zezheng and I went to the disco together, and it was already around 1am when we got home. I was tired and tired, and I was about to take a taxi home with Zezheng. However, he deliberately said he wanted to save money and took me to take the overnight bus. I knew he was sick again, so I simply ignored him and took a taxi home. I didn't expect him to keep calling me later, saying I was unreasonable and not saving, which made me angry for a week.
Due to Ze Zheng's rebellion, I have gone through too many hardships. Firstly, it was the obstruction of my parents, and then Ze Zheng's misunderstanding. Tears have flowed down a lot. Finally, I understand how to get along with the rebellious Ze Zheng, which is to make progress by retreating. Learning to do this is really a last resort. I remember a few days ago when Zezheng and I went to a friend's house to play. When we got back, it was late and I was very cold and sleepy. I couldn't help but say to Zezheng, "Dear, are you cold? If you're cold, I'll give you my shawl." Zezheng proudly replied, "I'm not cold, are you cold?" I immediately replied, "It's not cold, it's not cold." Zezheng curled his lips, took off his coat, and wrapped it around me, He said, "Hmm, you're trembling now, you're talking hard.
I thought to myself: Can you give me a coat without being too stubborn? You say every day that you hate being asked by others the most. If I really tell you it's cold and want you to give me your coat, you will definitely not give it to me. Then I continued, 'Let's find a night bus to go home and save some money.' Ze Zheng curled his lips and said, 'Night bus, do you think I don't have money to take a taxi?' I was almost overjoyed. In dealing with the rebellious Ze Zheng, taking a step back is sure to win.
