Post Date December, 03 2023
In the early winter of 2008, a chance encounter made me know He Bin.
At that time, my good friend's birthday was approaching, and I ordered a gift for her. The person delivering the gift was He Bin. "The gift was sent to the unit, and he asked me to check it over. 'I'm very satisfied, thank you,'" I politely thanked the deliverer. ". Unexpectedly, a polite smile made him desire to meet me.
A few days later, I received a text message from a strange number saying, "Can I be friends with you?" With some confusion, I asked who he was. In the following information, I knew it was the young man who delivered the goods. He said that he was a stranger alone in Ningbo, and in this strange city, he didn't even have a confidant friend. He thought my smile that day was very friendly and kind, so he wrote down my phone number and took the liberty to send this message. "Because I am also a stranger and have experienced the loneliness of not having friends, I agreed to He Bin's request in a text message.".
After establishing contact with He Bin, although he asked me to have dinner several times in his text message, I refused, as everyone was unfamiliar. A month later, one day, He Bin suddenly sent a message asking me what I was doing. I said I was wandering in Tianyi Square, and he immediately replied that he happened to be doing something here and wanted to meet me. "I'm a bit uncomfortable seeing him so enthusiastic. After all, we only met during the delivery, and now we can't even remember what he looked like.". Seeing me hesitating, he was a little worried. Seeing him so sincere, I had to stop on the wooden ladder opposite TESCO Group for a while to let him find me. I thought if I could find him, I would see him. If I couldn't find him, I would forget. Who knows, in a moment, He Bin really found him.
He Bin invited me to take a stroll. To be honest, it was really uncomfortable shopping with strangers for the first time. In order to alleviate the embarrassment, he took me to the Drum Tower to play with high spirits. Along the way, his interest was very high, and I, who never played games, also tried it at his instigation. After that, it naturally occurred to us to have dinner together, sit down and chat while eating. Sitting across the table, He Bin seemed a bit embarrassed, glancing at both sides and not daring to look at me.
His confession really gave me a shock
The somewhat restrained meal finally ended when a small episode occurred, and my bag was missing! He Bin nervously searched everywhere, and in order not to cause him any trouble, I could only smile and say forget it. "Who knows, he said no, insisted on buying me one, and asked me what was inside. I didn't want him to worry, saying that the bag was empty, only the key.". "But he insisted on buying me a bag. In order to buy me a bag, He Bin walked around all the stores, big and small. In order not to cost him anything, I only said that I didn't like anything. I didn't think I was familiar enough to ask him to buy me a bag.".
"Who knows, just as I was about to return home, his words startled me. He seriously said, 'Do you want me to buy it and deliver it to your unit? Since you don't say what you like, I'll make my own decision.'" Seeing his serious expression, I immediately became speechless, while he helped me choose my bag on his own. ". "When He Bin happily handed me the new bag, I felt a little uneasy in my heart, but he lightly said, 'Christmas is coming soon, so I'll treat it as a gift for you.'".
In a flash, it was dark and I was going to take the bus home, but He Bin insisted on seeing me off. After arriving home, I received a message from him that although there was a small episode today, I was very happy. After reading his message, I couldn't be happy. Looking at the bag gave me a more disturbing premonition.
The next day, this unease was quickly verified. He Bin said on the phone that he had given me a bag for a purpose, hoping that I could remember him with this bag on my back, and also said that he felt like I was the person he was waiting for. God, he even expressed his feelings to me. I didn't refuse He Bin's gift, but I couldn't help but refuse this confession. "Sorry, I'm married, we can only be friends." He Bin on the other end of the phone was silent, and none of us expected this situation. His sudden confession frightened me, and my marriage was beyond his expectation. In addition to embarrassment, there was still embarrassment, and the air seemed to freeze. Finally, he pretended to be relaxed and joked, "Why didn't you get married without me?" This gently drove away our embarrassment.
Four years later, he still couldn't let go of the past
Friend is the only reasonable identity between He Bin and me, but because of that confession, the topic we talked about was much deeper than before.
I told him about my marriage. Before getting married, my current husband had betrayed me and caused me great harm, but I still forgave him and married him. He Bin also narrated his emotional experience. When he was still at school, he fell in love with a girl, and everyone around him said that He Bin treated her better than his mother. However, she always lost her temper with him because he loved her too much. Sometimes she even threw chopsticks at the table in front of many of He Bin's friends to embarrass him. Despite this, He Bin still loves and embraces her as always.
However, their relationship was not strong due to tolerance, and a brief separation completely disintegrated the love. At that time, He Bin went to Guangzhou to work for a year. Apart from living expenses, all of his salary was used to call his girlfriend, who was thrown into the arms of others. With a complex mood, he came back to his girlfriend and asked her why she did this? My girlfriend said, 'Because of loneliness.'. "He Bin was so angry that he couldn't control himself that he started beating the boy he thought was robbing his girlfriend. If it weren't for his family's compensation of over 100000 yuan, the consequences of the fight would have been unimaginable.". Later, He Bin spent a long time in pain, and in pain, the news of his girlfriend never stopped. The girl quickly married after changing several boyfriends.
He Bin's past made me sigh, although he told me that from the day he met me, he thought I was particularly suitable for him. He thought I was sincere and kind, not as fake as some girls. If possible, it would be a kind of happiness to have Congee with me, but he knew that it was just imagination. But I found that four years had passed since that episode, and he still couldn't let go.
"He has regained his old love, and I sincerely wish him happiness."
He Bin still often calls me, but one day he suddenly told me that his ex girlfriend had divorced and came to Ningbo to find him. His heart was in turmoil and he asked me what to do. I have come up with many ideas, but the final decision has to be resolved by him. He Bin is still the careful and kind He Bin I know. He said, "Although she has nothing to do with her anymore, she is unfamiliar with her place of life here, and I cannot ignore it." Finally, he decided to give up his home to her, take his clothes, and temporarily live at a friend's house.
However, escaping cannot solve everything. Having lived at a friend's house for a long time, He Bin has to face up to the difficulties posed by his ex girlfriend. The girl said she still loves him and wants to be with him. He Bin is already 28 years old. If it weren't for the deep injury he suffered earlier, he might have been a husband and a father for a long time. However, the person who hurt him now wants to resume his previous relationship, and with a divorced identity and a son born to someone else. He Bin told me that he thought all this was ridiculous.
After this call, He Bin suddenly disappeared and didn't contact me for a long time. When he appeared in front of me again, he told me that he had decided to marry his ex girlfriend. He said that she cried many times in front of him, and once she cried, his heart softened once. On the other day, when we met in Jiangxia Park, He Bin's words obviously decreased. He said that he was afraid that he would waver because he not only had to accept his ex girlfriend, but also her two-and-a-half year old son. Perhaps no one would understand him, but he still decided to do so. He said he didn't want to fall in love anymore, he was too tired, so he might as well pick up a ready-made one, just couldn't bear to part with me. "In front of emotions, we are all very foolish people," He Bin said with emotion. Unexpectedly, my experience had affected him. "I said to him, 'We are friends, we can be friends for a lifetime, and there is nothing to give up. No matter what choices he makes, my friend will support him and bless him.'".
Before the Spring Festival, He Bin called me and said that he was going to take his girlfriend back to his hometown. This time, he was mainly trying to persuade his family to prepare for marriage. From He Bin's mouth, I learned that his girlfriend was still not very sensible and her temper had not changed much. "Whether the shoes fit or not, only the wearer knows, and so does marriage.". As a friend, I sincerely wish He Bin all the best, forget the past hurts, and make happiness no longer distant.
Editor's Note: When facing emotions, people's intelligence and emotions often intersect uncontrollably, making it difficult to distinguish between them. So impulses like demons break into your mind, causing you to do things that are difficult to understand even when you think about them later. Fortunately, what we see in this factual record is that He Yun and He Bin rationally turned this relationship into friendship between friends. He Yun hopes He Bin will be happy in the future. Here, I also hope He Bin can truly give up his concern for He Yun and start his emotional life again.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
