Post Date December, 03 2023
After the baptism of life trivia and survival pressure, your relationship has started from the intimacy of your honeymoon period to the current insipidity.
Gradually, it may be due to economic pressure, or the lack of common language between you, the inability to meet each other's needs, arguments replacing communication, and the cold war and separation that have brought your relationship to the freezing point.
When this depressing atmosphere has been hanging around you, there will be someone who wants to escape, such as someone between a couple who wants a divorce. "If you still want this marriage to go on, keep looking down."
Reflect on your own problems and find reasons for divorce
Observe the changes in your wife's daily life and feel what abnormalities she has in her body and mind.
Reflect on what aspects of yourself have completely lost confidence in the other person, and what exactly has led to this step between you. During the period of reflection, you should try to avoid provoking the other party's aversion to you, resulting in the inability to proceed with recovery.
Be frank and identify with the other person's emotions
When the other party mentions divorce, don't be impulsive, don't be impatient, don't argue, don't be eager to let the other party forgive you. From her perspective, understand her mindset and thoughts. At the same time, calmly express your thoughts, but also respect her thoughts.
In this way, she will not be able to find words to continue arguing with you, and will also reflect on whether there is a problem with herself. "So, when the other party asks for a divorce, you can answer, 'Okay, I agree, but I need to ask the child's opinion on this./Another month is the mother's birthday, can we wait until after it?'".
Don't mention feelings, get along with friends
People tend to hide their wounds, especially female friends. "If you divorce because you're unhappy, the other person already wants to turn the page over, and you're still dragging your emotions in front of someone else and stomping on the minefield, it only makes the other person more resistant to chatting with you, meeting you, and wanting to avoid and resist you.".
Therefore, it is not wise to express your desire to save the other party during the period of disgust and resistance.
Improve yourself from inside out
Internal changes include changes in personal character, way of speaking, and style of doing things. The other party separated from you because they couldn't accept your fiery personality; She doesn't like the way you say things that don't convey your meaning, the way you talk, the way you transfer people can't understand, and the way you choose to break up "As long as it is the factor that caused your divorce, as long as it is the aspect that the other party once hoped you could make a slight change, you should pay attention to it and try to eliminate these" negative factors "from yourself as much as possible.".
Changes in appearance are also very important. Perhaps the other person has always liked your appearance and doesn't need to change it. Of course, this is the best thing, but love needs to be fresh, giving the other person a different you than before and refreshing her. Isn't that more attractive to her attention?
Communicate effectively
The most indispensable thing between people is communication and communication. Couples are even more so. Lack of communication can only make each other's lives increasingly boring and estranged, which is not a good thing for you and her. To save your divorcing wife, you need to learn to communicate effectively with her. What is effective communication? This means that through these communications, you can reduce the contradictions between you and promote the feelings between you, rather than saying a few words of greetings and unnecessary digressions.
Increase commonality
If your wife is determined to divorce you and has reached the point of making a scene, then you should unconditionally agree with what she says, agree with her views, increase commonality between you, and make her feel that you hold the same view, not that everything is antagonistic. This is very suitable for couples with high conflict points.
Put the question on the table
Since the problem has emerged, it is difficult to avoid its existence. If you don't tell your partner exactly what's bothering you, don't expect to improve your relationship.
Express your needs and anxieties sincerely, without using a threatening or accusing tone, so that your partner will not be locked in. Use the "me" way of speaking instead of the "you" way of speaking. You can say "I'm bored" instead of "You're annoying me.".
Play to increase emotions
Planning activities and outings to spend "happy times" with your most important one can reignite romance and remind you of why you fell in love. If your marriage is in serious trouble, consider taking a second honeymoon.
Flirting with your partner at unexpected times will enhance their self-esteem and increase your romantic flame.
