Post Date December, 03 2023
At present, the divorce demography is growing day by day. Many couples face various challenges in life after years of marriage, but some people still end up in failure on this road. For remarried couples, it is important to pay special attention to the small issues that need to be addressed in their marriage. Today, we will discuss the principles of happiness for remarried couples.
Rule 1 of Happiness: Abandoning Idealized Expectations for Marriage
Don't use remarriage to repair the scars of past relationships, think about what marriage, love, and your own expectations are. Putting aside perfect expectations for marriage means true maturity, no longer treating oneself as a little girl or boy, but as an adult entering a partnership.
At the same time, it also means becoming aware of one's already ended marriage, becoming aware of one's patterns in love and being loved, and completing one's own growth. This is quite important. Without awareness, we will enter new relationships with old patterns, leading to restructured relationships falling into old cycles.
Rule 2 of Happiness: Respect the other party's ex
The fact that the other party has had a marriage is already a foregone conclusion. Even if you want him to completely forget everything from the past, it is unrealistic. In fact, no matter how many ex-wives there are, you must accept their existence and accept that they entered this man's life earlier than you.
I can understand the jealousy and rejection towards my predecessor. This requires mutual understanding. If you still live in the original house, you should pay attention to putting away your ex's belongings and giving a good psychological suggestion for a new life from a physical space.
Rule 3 of Happiness: Establishing an Alliance for the Present
No matter what happens, you should always stand on the same front as the current one, and focus on your current relationship when considering things and making decisions. Chinese couples, especially men, are prone to placing their parents, children, and other relationships above their partnership. In fact, whether they are getting married for the first time or remarriage, partnership is always the top priority, which can make marriage successful.
When the current employee constantly appears in front of you in the name of a child, please be sure to clarify the boundaries with your predecessor and obtain the current employee's consent and understanding. This is an important principle of respecting the present.
Rule 4 of Happiness: Peaceful coexistence with current loved ones
The other half of your loved ones have also become your loved ones after your marriage, and their importance to you is self-evident. They have had a close connection with TA's predecessor. They're comparing! You must let go of comparison and sensitivity. The mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship has always been regarded as the most difficult, let alone the new bride who remarries. Don't demand intimacy. Getting along with customers like a company is already very successful.
What needs to be prepared is that she may not necessarily like her ex daughter-in-law very much, but it is possible that she has taboos about divorce. In her opinion, divorce is a bad thing, and she will look at you with a critical eye. Treat your new mother-in-law with a generous and respectful attitude. Even if she has excessive actions, make a good alliance between you and your husband, do not respond with a needle in the face of Mai Mang, and at the same time, let her know what your boundaries are.
Rule 5 of Happiness: A formal wedding is necessary
A formal ceremony is an opportunity for a restructured partner to make a public appearance in social relationships, as well as an important opportunity to gain social recognition and receive blessings. Both parties officially disclose their social relationships towards each other, and in future social interactions, they will also be invited as a whole or participate in activities with family and friends. When a remarried woman proposes to have a wedding, she is not ostentatious or vain, but a psychological need: to be publicly acknowledged!
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
