Post Date December, 03 2023
It is impossible for a husband and wife to be friendly forever, and there will always be conflicts and differences. At this time, fighting is the simplest and most direct solution. In fact, quarrelling can enhance feelings, but don't go beyond the bottom line, or you can only destroy feelings.
Don't attack each other's "soft side" in a quarrel
Everyone has his own weakness, and his lover is not the enemy. When fighting, he can only be "right about things and wrong about people", and can not be aggressive, let alone take "exposing" as a means to vent his anger, otherwise minor contradictions may become hostile.
The quarrel should be targeted and do not involve other matters
Some couples always escalate minor matters. When quarreling, they tend to expand their goals and take out all the "old and new hatred". Often this will go beyond the scope of quarrels, and easily promote the establishment of a clear situation between ourselves and the enemy, which will lead to feelings cracks.
Don't fight if you are not conscious
When people are not conscious, they tend to do impulsive things, such as drinking, feeling extremely depressed, being hit, and so on. If there are contradictions at this moment, even in the face of a lover, they may also be regarded as "enemies", and even violence may occur. So don't fight in this situation.>> Mediation means to maintain the happiness of couples
Don't fight
The quarrel between husband and wife is beneficial to the reconciliation of feelings, but the fight by hand does not have this effect, and instead leads to the end of feelings. Therefore, we should never do anything to stop quarreling.
There should be no winning or losing mentality in a quarrel
Contradictions in marriage cannot be judged by "victory or defeat". If it is used as a tool to measure family status, quarrels will not promote feelings, but will make couples "draw a line" and lead to confrontation.
Don't "punish" the other party by separating and running away
After many couples quarrel, one party will "punish" the other party by running away from home or living separately. Such childish behavior will not be compromised by the lover, but will only deepen the separation between the two, and even lead to a cold war, which is more likely to trigger a new crisis.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
