Post Date December, 03 2023
When my husband and I first got married, we insisted on getting along. But later on, when I had a child, I had to work, take care of the children, and take care of some household chores, so I showed much less care for him than before.
In the past, I used to spend most of my free time chatting with him except for work. It's been a long time now that I haven't had the same kind of open conversation as before, and sometimes I just have a brief chat.
A while ago, I was using his laptop when I accidentally noticed a female netizen sending him a message. I recognized her at the time, and she met him online by playing games. She met him before me, but after meeting me, she spent all her free time with me and had not contacted him for a long time. Later on, I learned that when my child was about one year old, he contacted her again. Every time, he would play games and chat with her, and they talked more relaxed. This may have eased his tension and pressure, indicating that he had a certain level of spiritual support for that woman.
I have carefully considered it, and if he does anything more outrageous, I will investigate all the evidence of their interactions. If necessary, divorce is also within the scope of consideration. After all, it's better to find him unfaithful now than to spend a lifetime with an unfaithful man.
Ms. Chen:
I admire your calmness when this situation arises in marriage. But I have to remind you that this is a dangerous signal in marriage, indicating that you and your husband lack the communication and communication you mentioned in their marital life. If there is no communication and communication between couples for a long time, their thinking and thoughts will change, and there will be accusations between each other, leading to conflicts and contradictions in marital life, which is not conducive to the harmony of marriage. The temptation of reality is very great, which undoubtedly brings danger to marriage. After having children, your concern for your husband becomes less and less. What I want to say is that women cannot ignore their husband's feelings just because they have children. In marriage, besides being a mother, a woman is first and foremost a wife. Only when the couple is happy and harmonious can their children grow up in a happy and healthy environment.
Women should learn to manage their marriage when dealing with it. Reflect on your mistakes and it's also necessary to talk to your husband. Speak out your feelings about this matter, and also express your inner desire not to have such a thing happen. I hope your husband can understand, and it is also necessary to admit your own mistakes. It is not necessary to ignore your feelings because of the child. I hope that both parties can correct their mistakes and live a happy marriage. When there are danger signs in marriage, as the owner of the marriage, you have the right to manage your marriage well, and I believe you can definitely do well. Don't easily think about divorce unless it's a last resort.
