The Hard Course of Fighting Premature Ejaculation: The Golden Rule of Couple Sexual Life

I have been married for almost ten years, but unfortunately, my time is always very short. As soon as I enter her body, it can be as short as a few movements, and as long as three or two minutes, it will definitely be done! Although she didn't say anything, I could feel her dissatisfaction.

I often comfort myself that it's always quick at first.

After a long time, I doubt if I can do it! So as I approached graduation and was busy looking for a job, I began to search for doctors and medication to take a break from my busy schedule and solve the problem of premature ejaculation. Western medicine said that I may have been caused by prostatitis, so I underwent interventional ablation, infusion therapy, and physical therapy for nearly a month, but the situation did not improve. I changed my strategy and found. Traditional Chinese medicine says that insufficient kidney yang can cause premature ejaculation, and it is necessary to strengthen the kidney and yang to solve the problem. But after nearly two months of taking the medicine formulated by the old Chinese medicine, the sound still lingers. This has become a major concern for me. After work, we got married quickly.

After marriage, it was basically just that she had a reaction and I had already let out a thousand miles. I am in a state of panic, always feeling powerless and not a true person. I have made up my mind to change this symptom. Previous treatments with traditional Chinese and Western medicine have not been effective, indicating that I should not have any illnesses. Is it possible that I am too sensitive?

I have looked up a lot of information, but the more information I have, the more confused I become, and various explanations are also confusing. At this point, my wife and I had a showdown to gain her support and understanding. The following are the methods we have jointly developed, which should be helpful for those who are too fast. We hope everyone can share them together:

Firstly, develop a regular plan and increase the frequency. Because the vast majority of data suggests that frequent ejaculation can prolong ejaculation time, and since we are still newlyweds and my body is also very strong, there is basically no problem with this.

Secondly, use morning erection for non ejaculation. Usually, when the sensation of ejaculation is reached through hand stimulation, it stops and starts stimulation after the sensation has basically disappeared. It is said that this exercise is very beneficial for reducing the sensitivity of the penis, and after two to three months, I can feel a change.

Thirdly, engage in appropriate sexual games. This mainly refers to my wife's caress towards me and my caress towards her. Use any method we can give or receive to caress and stimulate the other person, improving sexual tolerance. This has basically become our foreplay, bringing some special joy to our married life.

Fourthly, let everything flow naturally. Every time my penis feels excited, I shift my attention and talk to my wife about love, kissing, or caressing other parts, repeating this constantly.

A few years later, my ability to control ejaculation gradually improved, and my wife had more and more real opportunities. Our sexual life had completely reached a harmonious and happy level.

Experts:

Professor Wang: In clinical consultations, I have also encountered many men who are troubled by premature ejaculation in the Teaching and Research Department of the Basic Department of the Medical College. The vast majority of them hope to use medication to prolong their ejaculation time, but in reality, the results are not satisfactory. In fact, modern scientific research has basically proven that a considerable number of people are born with the ability to control ejaculation, or are influenced by multiple comprehensive factors at the beginning of ejaculation. Once stereotyped, it is difficult to completely change. If there is no disease causing premature ejaculation, it is very difficult to change.

Firstly, learn to face reality and not be overly influenced by it. Due to immense psychological pressure and a depressed mindset, not only does it not help but it may also make things worse.

Secondly, strive to gain the understanding and support of your loved ones. Sexual life cannot be fully coordinated by one's own efforts. It's difficult to handle it alone. Don't make meaningless efforts alone. As long as you are honest and proactive, and share your inner thoughts and troubles with her, the person you love won't disappoint you. She will fight side by side with you.

Finally, when encountering difficulties and seeking help from professionals, one should eliminate misconceptions and negative attitudes such as nervousness, shyness, and shame. Their help will help you overcome difficulties more smoothly.

Professor Lu:

When it comes to premature ejaculation, I happen to have a typical example at hand, which should have a certain representativeness. A few days ago, a young man who had been married for more than two months came to the male clinic to consult about his disability. He is a civil servant and his wife is the daughter of the local county magistrate.

On his wedding night, due to excessive nervousness and excitement, as well as psychological fear of climbing the golden branches and leaves, he suffered a complete defeat on his wedding night. The next day, despite reluctantly completing the transformation from a golden virgin to an adult male and female with his wife, he experienced premature ejaculation every time he had sex. The more worried he was, the earlier he ejaculated. Several times, before going to bed, the penis was still vigorous and hard, ready to go, but as soon as he turned over to work, it quickly weakened and developed erectile dysfunction, which made him even more worried.

The patient's consultation question, titled Male Sexual Dysfunction, is actually due to the inability to concentrate and acting as a bystander, resulting in psychological imbalance and sexual dysfunction. Be attentive in class. This is a very familiar lesson in our state, but in fact, this sentence is still the golden rule in couples' sexual life! Sexual scientists point out that focusing and not being distracted during sexual activity is one of the important factors in achieving sexual harmony and pleasure; And when the brain becomes distracted and becomes a bystander, it can affect sexual pleasure at times, and at times lead to psychological imbalance and even sexual dysfunction.

So, how can we solve the patient's premature ejaculation problem? To establish a heart, one must first step out of the psychological imbalance of worrying about sexual dysfunction.

From the patient's self description and examination, it can be determined that their sexual organs and functions are normal and there is no sexual dysfunction. However, due to psychological imbalance, they are trapped in a vicious cycle of worrying about premature ejaculation, which is even more worrying about premature ejaculation. The patient must be clear and fully aware of this, overcome their psychology, and establish confidence in order to break this cycle. Otherwise, in the long run, it is easy to really suffer from premature ejaculation and even lead to sexual impotence.

Although his ability to control ejaculation may be due to premature ejaculation, it is an undeniable fact that his dysfunction leads to his inner anxiety. Ejaculation control is a technical and habitual issue, and taking appropriate measures can prevent the continuation of bad behavior. Generally speaking, the vast majority of men can improve after 8 to 12 weeks of treatment and training.