Post Date December, 03 2023
After completing the marriage process and entering the actual atmosphere of the family and playing each other's family roles, every day they face the bland and tasteless small home of firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar, and tea, as well as everyone's married life. Regardless of the daily schedule, monthly social interactions, and annual income, both spouses must take on their respective responsibilities and responsibilities in their small homes. On that day, when the monk hit the clock, they rehearsed their marriage homework in the cycle of time day after day and year after year.
Qing is a physical education teacher in a high school, and her husband is a judge. Perhaps it is the shackles of the marriage concept of the times, or the escalating friendship between each other's parents. They have a natural progression from the initial seemingly vague love affair to the matchmaking words of their parents. Although Qing had some twists and turns before walking towards the palace, willingly lifting the matchmaker's words, due to the mutual affection between the two families and the help of her half hearted family, Qing and her husband walked into the besieged city.
Where is the heart of the siege? Qing doesn't know how his future days will develop or continue.
A year later, after becoming his wife, Qing Zao was promoted to a mother, the mother of a boy who made both families happy. But after becoming a mother, it seems that Qing did not receive the warmth and happiness of his small family. With each passing day of their childhood, the couple, who had already had a holiday before getting married, began to experience significant differences in their personalities and discovered great friction.
Qing is a woman with a neutral personality, perhaps due to natural quirks in her personality, family background advantages, or professional characteristics. Qing always shows her tough and rigid side in others and family. She seems to have more males than females.
Her husband, on the other hand, is exactly the opposite of her. He seems to lack masculinity and have a surplus of yin and softness. I really don't know if it was a trick from the creator or a deliberate arrangement from fate, forcing two people with mismatched personalities to fight together and form a life combination. If it's just a matter of months and years, let's just put up with it. Keren's life can last for decades. Not only do we have to live and eat together, but we also have to face the storms together. How do you think we should face this fate?
As a mother, Qing took on the heavy burden of the family alone due to her strong and rigid side. Due to her husband's words and actions, she felt uncomfortable, so her husband's labor when he wanted to contribute to the family often did not receive recognition and appreciation from Qing.
Although Qing's husband lacks courage and charm in Qing's eyes, as a civil servant, this man still has a certain level of cultivation and literacy. They do not have the excessive shouting of right and wrong, nor the physical conflicts of pushing and shoving. They are accompanied only by the "elegant and gentle" silent patience and indifference towards each other.
Every day from nine to five, with three meals a day, life seems to be filled with no unusual smoke. But the seemingly calm small home is actually a seemingly detached place. They have already started their isolation and Cold War: not living in a room, not eating a meal, taking care of themselves, and not interfering with each other.
Qing continues to play the role of a mother, dedicating her maternal love to her growing son. And that civil servant also acted as a father's compassionate identity in accordance with his family responsibilities. Although they are no longer able to tolerate each other, accept each other's flaws, and cannot or will not repair the cracks in their marriage, they both have a fondness and warmth for their own flesh and blood. They do not want to harm their son's young soul, nor do they want him to experience life in an environment lacking family affection and care.
So, Qing and her husband are peacefully living together in a small home that others don't understand and don't know, enduring and abandoning the happy marriage time that they could have shared.
Time always rushes away without realizing it, without a trace. It will not compensate you for your helplessness and troubles in March, nor will it reward you with a five-year gift due to your dissatisfaction and dissatisfaction. Even if you have the feat of shaking the heavens and earth, crying ghosts and gods, it will not prolong your lifespan or increase your lifespan.
At the age of her son's 18, which was also her 45th birthday, Qing broke a 19 year long marriage contract. She was finally able to break free from the shackles of the besieged city, but she was not living alone or finding new love again. Instead, he followed his son to move his home to Hainan and continued to accompany him as his personal butler, releasing the positive energy of maternal love. But Qing still has to endure the loneliness and solitude of being single, a kind of spiritual loneliness and desolation, a kind of spiritual loneliness and desolation.
Despite the companionship of a son and the symbiotic family relationship between mother and son, a single mother without emotional ironing comes from a cold heart, which cannot be said to be the cold winter of marriage and the Antarctic in her life journey.
How many decades in a person's life can we enjoy? How many days when our loved ones are together make us warm? How many pieces of time are there for us to reminisce and savor? How many more years do we yearn and look forward to?
When all youth and good times cannot be with us for a long time, all expectations and dreams cannot be witnessed together, and all warmth and sweetness cannot be enjoyed together. The promises we once made, the grand aspirations we once set, the years we once agreed upon in our twilight, are all silent endings, all sad deviations, all pale invitations, and no white paper worth cherishing.
Life is a long and unpredictable journey, with the morning breeze and cold moon, and the willows falling, all just fleeting scenery. Those who travel together are not only in love, but also indispensable family and friendship. Marriage always has a crossroads, no matter whether one day they will become indifferent passersby, but any fate, we must cherish!
