Post Date November, 17 2024
I am a middle school student, and I deeply fell in love with a handsome boy in our class. He also fell in love with me, but just as we were immersed in love, a despicable third party broke in. The intruder is my confidant, my friend, and I tell her everything. I once privately asked her if she loved him, but she denied it, but now she is also in love with him. She was very beautiful, so she easily took him away. From then on, I fell into the abyss of pain, almost losing confidence in everything, and even having thoughts of suicide.
I am a very emotional girl, I love him, but he no longer loves me; I hate her, but I dare not hate her because she is more beautiful than me. I am so inferiority complex that I have to pretend that I am willing to quit, but I don't know how uncomfortable it is in my heart. She also apologized to me and said she didn't really love him, asking me to continue loving what I love. I can't believe it's true, I'm afraid it's another conspiracy. I dare not revisit old dreams with him again, I am afraid that he will be further away from me as a result. Professor Zhong, I am still reluctant to part with him now. I love him so much that I am infatuated with him. Will he still love me? I want to retaliate against her, but I have no ability because I am not as beautiful as she is. What should I do? I am really tormented to the point of dying. If this continues, my studies will definitely go down the drain! Help me!
A most pitiful and pitiful girl, a girl: I can understand your feelings at this moment. A young girl like you, who falls in love and is set back at the beginning, is truly unbearable in her despair and pain. I sympathize with you very much, but you should understand that only you can help yourself and save yourself. From your letter, it can be seen that you are a passionate and infatuated girl. Being infatuated is not a fault, but obviously your emotions are going in the wrong direction. If a boy easily sets aside their love and moves on to another girl just because of their beauty and pursuit, then he has a handsome appearance, which is too frivolous and shallow. His performance indicates that he does not truly love you, and such a boy is not worth your addiction and nostalgia. As for your friend, she did not have the sincerity, care and morality that Chingusai should have for you, nor did she care to maintain your friendship.
After she fell in love with that boy, she told you that they were not in true love. No matter what kind of psychology it was, doing so was very irresponsible, and even her own character was worth questioning. Don't be such a "friend". Facing the mutual betrayal of your boyfriend and good friend for a moment, you can imagine how deeply you have been hurt. However, the mentality of retaliation that arises from this is absolutely unacceptable, as it will only make yourself entangled in pain more tightly and unable to be released. The idea of suicide is even more unwise. You are still young and the path of life has just begun. It is important to know that human growth is always accompanied by many setbacks and losses, which is a necessary journey for everyone.
In the future, it is inevitable to encounter various hardships. We must learn to understand ourselves, face everything with strength, and be the strongest in life. You cannot lose confidence in everything because of this. It is common for young men and girls to fail in their first love. It is a pity that their first love fails, but it is a blessing in disguise? Failure in first love often indicates that one is still immature and the first choice is not entirely correct. Wouldn't it be better to learn a lesson and make a second choice? You are growing your body, gaining knowledge, learning life, accumulating life experience, and sometimes setbacks and failures are needed and valuable. A few years later, when you look back on this matter, you will realize that it is precisely this setback that has led to your future success and happiness in life. Are you right?
You are still a student, and the most important task is to complete your studies. It is not appropriate to devote all your attention to love. Of course, if this kind of love is healthy and can motivate each other to work harder, it is also possible. However, in your current situation, you should get rid of it as soon as possible. You also know that it is not worth continuing to suffer and affect your studies. Wake up, Transfer your mind from this meaningless emotional entanglement to your studies, shape a self improvement, truly lovely and beautiful self, and you will definitely find your own happiness in the near future.
