Post Date December, 02 2023
After analyzing the "black box" of a deceased aircraft, linguists have found that if the conversation between the captain and the co pilot is not direct enough, the probability of accidents will increase. For example, if the co pilot says "the temperature is too low," the pilot may not be able to understand what he is trying to express. "But if the co pilot says, 'Now that the outside temperature is decreasing, water may freeze on the wings. I suggest doing another defrosting before takeoff, what do you think?'"
Marriage also requires such direct communication. "The temperature is high, and the husband may say, 'Don't you think it's very hot at home?' The wife replies, 'I feel very good.' A few minutes later, the husband is complaining again, 'It's too hot at home. You stay at home all day and don't even want to hang out.'"
From these words, it can be seen that the husband wants to go for a walk but doesn't say it directly. He feels uncomfortable and criticizes his wife instead. How can a wife guess what her husband is saying? The result is that neither person is happy. In fact, the husband can say it directly, such as "I've been at home all day, and I'm getting bored. Shall we go out for a walk?"
In traditional Chinese culture, silence, joy and anger are not reflected in color, but are considered strong and confident. Men feel that speaking out their hearts is damaging to their image. In fact, only those who have a sense of security and self determination can express their feelings and thoughts maturely. "Only when we express our feelings and thoughts in our hearts, and the other party listens attentively to our voices, can we truly achieve equality and mutual respect in our marriage, and the quality of our marriage can be higher.".
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
