Post Date December, 02 2023
With the expansion of living area, there are more places to put beds in the home. Although the social climate is also changing, should we also think twice about the issues of "sharing beds" and "dividing beds" in marriages where there are cracks in the marital relationship. In reality, "sleeping in separate beds" cannot be said to be the fundamental factor in marital breakdown, but its role is also much more important than people usually imagine. The arrival of the long holiday is a good time to manage family relationships and enjoy family relationships. Take a look at the following sleep research and put it into action!
According to the New York Times, more than 20 years ago, while studying rural life, Paul Rosenblat took his 12-year-old son to a farm in the Midwest of the United States for an interview. The father and son live on a farm, and they must share a bed. Dr. Rosenblat, a sociology professor at the University of Minnesota, recalled, "It was terrible! Because my son was tossing and turning all night, and his feet were sticking to my face all night." The next day, he was exhausted and muddy all over. Recalling the situation at the time, the professor thought adapting to sleeping with other people was really challenging.
■ Sharing a bed can relieve sadness
Recently, he conducted research on the topic of sadness. Dr. Rosenblat interviewed some couples who had lost their children. "They often tell me that they relieve sadness by hugging and talking to each other in bed at night. This seems to remind me of how sharing a bed has affected my life and my understanding of comfort."
Dr. Rosenblat said, however, that no one has really studied the advantages and disadvantages of sharing a bed, possibly because sharing a bed is so common that it simply does not receive attention from people. For this reason, after in-depth research, he wrote a book, "Bed Sharing: The Social System of Partners Sharing a Bed," which was published by the State Press University of New York this summer.
"It's not a self-help book," he said. It's a survey of common and often interesting things that couples who share a bed face, including caressing, rolling away the quilt, and snoring. Dr. Rosenblat said, "I hope this book will influence research on sleep and make people no longer view sleep as a personal phenomenon."
There are thousands of studies on sleep, and even more on marriage and relationships, but only a few are studies on couples sleeping in the same bed. The National Sleep Foundation is a non-profit organization in Washington that sponsors education and research on sleep and sleep disorders. It estimates that 61% of Americans share a bed with others. The presence of another person increases the chance of sleep disorders. In the annual sleep poll conducted by the foundation, 62% of people said their preferred sleeping partner was their partner.
■ Sharing a bed at midnight allows couples to open their hearts and embrace safety
In this book, Dr. Rosenblatt states that although many couples claim that they are better off sleeping alone, they still share a bed. "When I asked them why, they looked at me strangely, as if I were asking them why they were breathing," he said
To write the book "Bed Sharing: The Social System of Partners Sharing a Bed," Dr. Rosenblat interviewed 42 couples, most of whom were heterosexual couples, but some were unmarried cohabiting or gay couples. Caressing and comforting are the primary reasons couples are willing to sleep in the same bed. He said:
"Some couples talk about sex, but not many." Most people believe that bed is where they talk to each other. "They found that only in bed can they talk quietly without disguise, and bed can also let people forget all their worries. This is also the place where they open their hearts and connect after midnight."
Several respondents said that the difficulty of sleeping in the same bed or sleeping in separate beds led to the eventual breakdown of their previous marriage, and sharing a bed was a necessary factor for them to maintain their relationship. Dr. Rosenblat said, "I am very surprised that there are many people who believe that they live together because they sleep in the same bed." For example, he said, a woman's illness was immediately noticed by her husband because they hug each other and sleep every night.
