Post Date December, 03 2023
I want to ask about my parents. My father is my stepfather. When I was eight years old, my mother took me to marry my stepfather and live together. How to say, my stepfather has been very good to me from childhood to adulthood, just like I have always been my own daughter. I also have a younger brother, who was born to my mother and stepfather. The stepfather has no discrimination or prejudice against me because I am not his own.
However, about two years ago, I found that there were several ambiguous messages with other women and some flirting messages from the other side in my stepfather's mobile phone message. When I found this situation, I felt bad in my heart, but I never had the courage to mention it to my stepfather or tell my mother. I really dare not tell my mother. I'm afraid my mother will be sad. After all, her first marriage has failed. To tell the truth, I am very worried and afraid of their emotional breakdown.
Although I didn't tell my mother about it directly, I asked my mother behind my back. I said who was the name of the woman in my stepfather's cell phone, and my mother said it was the person they worked together. Then I said where was this person and how was this person? My mother said that the woman was OK? I feel that my stepfather has not only had an improper relationship with a woman in recent years, but also with other women when my mother is with me. I don't know what to do now? Shall I tell my mother about it? I'm very confused. What should I do?
reply:
1. Although the stepfather is very kind to you and treats you as his own daughter, no matter how kind he is to you, he cannot be indifferent to his infidelity and betrayal to his mother. If you are really good for them and don't want their marriage to break up, you should disclose the situation to your mother at the first time, so that your stepfather's cheating can be contained in the bud in time. But you, help your stepfather keep his relationship with other women secret for several years, and have missed the best governance time. Now, they are likely to move from the flirting stage to the cooked rice stage, which is really bad to end.
2. It is undeniable that the stepfather should be grateful for the kindness of his adopted daughter, but the stepfather's hypocrites in the emotional field can't just stand by and see. For this, either you can talk to your stepfather alone and solve it alone, helping your mother eliminate this obstacle in marriage; Or you can uncover the hypocrisy of the other side of the man in time, face the ugly man with your mother, and help your stepfather reverse his failure in life. Don't let him fall deeper and deeper, and continue to go astray on the road of marriage.
3. Now that you have seen through the obscene side of your stepfather and pretended not to know and not to see, you can only make your heart more uncomfortable and tangled, and only by facing the reality and revealing the truth can you feel more comfortable. Although, facing the cruel reality also requires a determination and courage, but when you take that step, your heart may be more relieved. In short, in the face of problems that have already occurred, we can only find ways to solve them. It is useless to escape.
