Should I get a divorce if my wife has a sexually transmitted disease and refuses to admit infidelity

I am 36 years old and have been married for 8 years. My relationship is very good. In an accidental discovery, she deleted the number after calling a man. I asked her the reason, but she initially didn't admit it. Later, she said that deleting the number was because she was afraid of my ulterior motives, but I even found out that she often called and sent messages to netizens, all of which were deliberately concealed. Recently, I was infected with a sexually transmitted disease through her, and she admitted that it was her fault, but insisted that she had not cheated before and did not know how she got it. We don't want a divorce. But I no longer believe her, how should we face this problem? What should I do now that I am not willing to go through such a muddled past?

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Based on your confidences, there are indications that your wife may have cheated in nine out of ten cases. In fact, you understand very well in your heart, but you just don't want to believe it, otherwise why have you lost your trust in her?

Also, I'm not sure what kind of good way you said your husband and wife have a good relationship. Is this your own misjudgment? Love is good, why does she often call netizens? A woman always secretly calls other men without telling her other half, is this called love? I think you must have spoiled her too much. Is it because you keep her at home every day and treat her too well, making her feel like she has nothing to do and too much extra energy to consume, which is the reason for her desire for food, clothing, and lust.

For the situation where you have been infected with a sexually transmitted disease by her, since she has already admitted it herself, if you want to verify whether this disease is caused by unclean sexual transmission, I think it is best to seek medical experts to help you analyze it, and not to insist that it is caused by the wife's infidelity. To my knowledge, medically speaking, sexually transmitted diseases can be acquired through multiple channels, not just through having sexual relationships with others. For example, insufficient disinfection of instruments during tooth extraction or gynecological examinations, as well as taking a bath in the bathtub, may also lead to contracting sexually transmitted diseases.

If you have lost the minimum sense of trust in your wife, then it is not significant for your marriage to continue in this state, and it can only develop in the direction of survival. So, if you don't want a divorce, you should learn to turn the page and give yourself a bottom line. If you think about it, don't dwell on your daughter-in-law's past. Give her the right to make a mistake. It's better to see her performance in the future. Let bygones be bygones, bygones are not important, what's important is now and in the future.