Post Date December, 03 2023
A year ago, I came home from a business trip. It was already evening. I didn't tell my wife when I got home before going back. So I went straight home. When I got home, the light was still on. I called my wife, but she was not there. I guess she went downstairs.
When I saw that the computer in the room was still on, I walked by and wanted to watch the news while waiting for my wife to come back. The wife's qq is still hanging, and the avatar of incoming information is flashing all the time. There are group information and personal chat information. I can't help but come and have a look. It's nothing if I don't look at it. It makes me feel numb and angry.
Most of the personal chat messages come from men. I looked at the chat record and found that my wife was using this QQ to talk to three or four men about the same content. She said that I was always on business trips. She was sometimes lonely at home and wanted to find a man to be a long-term sexual partner. She also asked the other party if she wanted to. Some of them said they wanted to, some didn't pay much attention to her... To tell the truth, if I didn't see this chat record, I would have killed me all my life, and I don't believe my wife would have done such a thing.
After a while, I heard my wife's footsteps. Instead of hiding, I continued to sit in front of the computer and read her chat records. At first, my wife called her husband in the living room, but when she saw me sitting in front of the computer, she began to be stunned and stopped talking. So she went downstairs to buy melon seeds. After that, I couldn't control the abuse, and then the two began to quarrel. I came home after 9 o'clock. The two people quarreled until about 12 o'clock. Then my wife took the initiative to go to the living room, and I spent the whole night surfing the Internet in my room, because I couldn't sleep at all.
The next morning, my wife with red and swollen eyes came to apologize to me. She said that she knew she was wrong. She was really lonely because I was always busy at work and on business. She said that what she said to others on the Internet was mostly intended to tease others. I hope I don't take it seriously. She said that she would never commit it again, and hoped that she could be forgiven this time.
How can I not forgive her. We started to love before we graduated from college, and then worked and married in the same city. Although we didn't have children yet, we were still happy, but I was too busy to accompany her often. So after that morning, we still smiled at each other. However, to be honest, I still haven't completely jumped over that barrier in my heart. It's like a shadow. I always think of it and feel uncomfortable. What do you say?
Reply:
I think your reaction is completely the reaction of a normal man and a normal husband. If a man becomes a husband and is still unrestrained and unrestrained in the face of his wife's similar cheating behavior, either the man is ill or the man doesn't take his wife seriously.
Marriage needs to be managed. Your wife said that she was lonely and fanciful because of your frequent business trips, which can't be blamed on her. As long as she is a normal woman, if her husband is often away from home, she is not lonely. Therefore, if you still need to travel frequently in the future, remember to spend more time on your wife, such as making more phone calls, sending more text messages, and caring and caring more, which will reduce your wife's loneliness and emptiness more or less.
In the end, I want to say that since your wife has confessed, and in fact, there should have been no such thing as cheating, and you have forgiven her face to face, let this matter go with the wind, and take it as a lesson in the marriage journey.
One hundred years of cultivation can lead to the same boat crossing, and one thousand years of cultivation can lead to the same sleep. Your fate is not easy. Since you have worked so hard to get together, cherish each other. A quarrel at the end of the bed and a happy marriage sing together.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
