Post Date November, 16 2024
When a man sends out sexual signals, he expresses not only sexual demands, but also subconsciously says, "Be sure to accept me." If you say things like, "No! No!" or "I'm too tired," he will feel that his self-esteem has been hurt. At this point, men may lack their usual tolerance and suddenly develop a sense of dissatisfaction. If you often refuse his sexual demands, he may stop this courtship behavior, and both spouses may have emotional problems. Let's take a look at what sexual secrets both spouses have?
He is afraid of rejection
Don't completely refuse your husband's courtship. It's not that you always have to comply with him, but you should understand that this is a man's vulnerability. You can say, "I love you very much, but today's work is too tiring, can tomorrow morning be okay, He will feel better, and it's not appropriate to refuse outright or use too many blaming words.
He likes you with a bit of humor
Joking is a way for men to relax their mental tension. Men often feel the pressure of responsibility, and they need to smile to relax. So, when your husband tries to be humorous and you refuse to participate, he will feel that you lack understanding of him, and even feel that you are judging his behavior and performance. If a woman learns to joke with her husband on and off the bed, or often expresses humorous words and actions, life will have more fun and double her "sexual" interest.
He doesn't like to talk too much during sex
Research has shown that men generally do not like to talk to their wives more when having sex. When you say 'dear, I like the feeling of being close', what you may hear may be a few brief and ambiguous words. If you constantly talk about trivial matters in life or work during sexual intercourse, the man may express some impatience, and at this point, you may feel left out. In fact, he is too focused on the behavioral center of the right hemisphere of the brain and his language function cannot function. If asked how he feels about having sex, he may prefer to remain silent because conversation may distract his passion. Of course, it's not that you can't talk, but there's no need to feel disappointed because he didn't say a word.
He likes visual stimulation
Generally speaking, men are susceptible to visual stimuli while women are susceptible to auditory stimuli. That's why boys love to watch pornographic images for excitement, while girls love to read romantic novels. This means that men's sexual impulses mainly come from their appearance, which also explains why men always look at women's bodies and clothing. So, you should occasionally wear some sexy underwear. If you are used to turning off the lights for sex, you may want to change it, or turn on a soft light, or light some candles in the room, as your husband will be stimulated by his visual effects. Then let his eyes "feast" on your body. This may be the simplest and most passionate action you should take.
He didn't just want to react
An erection is caused by congestion of the penis, which may be stimulated by sexual impulse, but it can also be caused by holding urine or tight underwear. In addition, when you wake up in the morning, you will also have an erection. If you think your husband has an erection, it means he has entered a "sexual state", which will only bring problems to your relationship. If you're not sure, ask him what he wants. For example, if he wakes up in the morning and hugs you, you can ask him if he wants to have sex or just hug each other. In this way, he will make choices effortlessly and be grateful for your care.
The Gender Secrets Hidden in Men's Hearts
1、 Emotions are often suppressed and released through sex
As men, many people do not want their weaknesses, such as fear, isolation, helplessness, disappointment, etc. They often use sex as a way to vent these inner emotions. At such times, if the wife wants more warmth, she will only feel disappointed. Because, although the husband receives physical venting, it does not eliminate the internal tension, and the wife will feel insulted, feeling that she is a tool exclusively for the husband to vent his anger.
In fact, when men feel scared, disappointed, or nervous, they all hope to have a loyal partner by their side, so sex is an effective way for them to regain confidence and feel relieved. Therefore, when a wife feels her husband's nervousness, she should find a way to share it with him, give him a sense of security, and speak her heart to you. In this way, the couple will feel more intimate, and the accompanying sexual life will also be more emotional and unforgettable.
2、 Likes women with confidence
Many women believe that their husbands do not really care about them, and the conversation between husband and wife often revolves around their interests rather than hers. However, there is an obvious fact that most women intentionally "lower themselves" to make their husbands feel like they are the head of the family.
What women often overlook is that men with pleasant natures usually prefer women who share common qualities with them. The vast majority of men believe that women with strong self-confidence are more infectious to them, so wives should not be too humble in front of their husbands.
3、 Unwilling to be treated as a child
The more a wife plays the role of her husband's mother, the more he treats her like his own mother, rather than a loving lover. Why should women treat their husbands like mothers do to their children? A woman said, "Whenever my husband doesn't pay attention to me, I use the 'mother's way' to cook delicious food for him and tidy up his underwear. What I really want is more attention and tenderness from my husband, but what I get is a thoughtful child's full of thank-you words, and he praises me for being so thoughtful!
Observing mothers' labor during childhood, women learn to feed their children, selflessly contribute, and pay attention to the demands of others. When marrying a man, she subconsciously follows suit. At first, men needed this kind of care, but the more enthusiastic a woman played the role of a mother, the harder it was for men to reciprocate her in a loving way.
Therefore, women should not treat their husbands as children, but as capable and trustworthy friends. At first, there will be many troubles, but the husband will eventually understand his wife's good intentions and treat her as a carefully selected woman again.
4、 A wife who enjoys sharing the joy of bed curtains with him
In sexual intercourse, there are differences between men and women. Women pay attention to warmth, while men appreciate their enjoyable sexual life more. Due to the existence of this difference, women often complain that their husbands only pay attention to sex, and that she is just a tool, while men complain that their wives' interests are only about romance. To solve this contradiction, one can try changing roles and letting men talk about their feelings of love, while women strive to experience the pleasure of their bodies, so that wives can understand that their husband's sexual demands are actually the ultimate expression of his love.
5、 Before and after sexual intercourse, they are completely different
Many husbands fall asleep after having sex. The wife believed that the husband was deliberately estranged, while the husband claimed to need rest. Countless women have had this experience, but what they don't understand is that men do it to control their emotions. For most men, a strong self-image is crucial, as completely losing defensive consciousness poses a psychological threat to them. A man said that sexual life is an experience where he fully expresses his emotions freely, but after the event, he must step out and "return to the male team".
