Post Date December, 03 2023
First of all, the faster the adulterer accepts and understands the pain of the victim, the faster the marital relationship recovers
"Usually, the person who has an affair wants not to mention it after returning home, but the injured spouse desperately needs to speak out about the pain in their hearts at this time.". At this point, if the outsider can patiently listen to the victim's confidences and help them vent their pent up pain, it will be of great help in rebuilding their marital relationship.
If the couple encounters difficulties in rebuilding their marriage relationship, they can also seek professional marriage guidance. Rebuild an intimate relationship with the help of a marriage counselor.
Secondly, both parties should explore the causes of marital affairs
"Forgetting pain after healing scars is a weakness of human nature.". However, in order to prevent the recurrence of an affair, the couple must explore the reasons for the occurrence of an affair in their marriage, and what part of the psychological needs of the person who has had an affair have been met by the third party. It is not too late to make amends.
On the one hand, an adulterer should reflect on the reasons for falling into an affair, and on the other hand, he should cherish, listen, and affirm his wife with love and patience, helping her heal her wounds.
In addition to receiving the treatment of love, a wife who is a victim should also reflect on her responsibilities in marriage, improve herself, learn to understand her husband, and meet his physical and psychological needs. These efforts can reduce the possibility of future affairs.
Practice and rebuild trust and intimacy
In the process of rebuilding trust and intimacy in marriage, marriage encounters many challenges. Each challenge is a "crisis", but it contains a more important "turnaround".
"When a wife wept as she remembered her husband's past affair, she might blame her for saying, 'It's all over. Why are you still so fussy about it? Aren't we both doing well now? You're so moody that we're both unhappy?'"
But a husband can also view this as a good opportunity to heal his wife's psychological trauma, patiently listen to her, accept her, embrace her with apologies, or comfort her.
When a husband has the opportunity to have dinner with the opposite sex again, or because of a work relationship, he has to contact a third party again, which causes anxiety and anxiety in his wife's heart, a wise husband will invite his wife to participate and work with him to work together to find solutions, such as finding another colleague to accompany him, and after dinner, the husband actively tells his wife about the eating situation and his feelings.
In the past, a husband only told his heart to a third party. Now, if he can tell his heart to his wife, it is the most effective way to rebuild the trust between two people. If a wife can also learn to self soothe, pay more attention to her husband's efforts, and often affirm him, marriage can accelerate healing.
Learn how to fall in love
If two people are willing to rebuild their marriage after experiencing an affair crisis, the chances of recovery are high. Therefore, couples experiencing an affair storm can seize this opportunity to gain an in-depth understanding of the crisis in their marriage and turn the crisis into a turning point. When you feel that the mountain is at an end, that you are unable to love, forgive, or go on, don't forget to reconnect with the source of love through prayer. With the support of loving and intelligent people around you, you can gradually understand the context of your emotions, while learning to comfort yourself in pain and maintain dignity. This painful experience can help you grow, enable you to have a deeper understanding of yourself and others, and also make yourself more mature and responsible.
