Post Date December, 02 2023
1、 Let the body "talk" about your thoughts.
Experience has shown that "body language" can often convey more information and express richer emotions to the other person. Therefore, if your verbal expression skills are mediocre, remember that on your first date, what you say rarely produces any surprising results.
According to researchers' calculations, on a first date, 55% of the first influence you leave on the other person depends on their appearance and "body language", 38% depends on their speaking skills, and only 7% depends on what you say.
This means that with the help of some simple psychological methods (even if the conversation only involves the weather), it is possible to win the admiration of the other person. To do this, your body must be able to convey some implicit positive signals to the other person. The first thing to note is: never stand with your arms crossed in front of each other; Secondly, imitating the other person's posture helps to create a sense of closeness.
In addition, it is best to adopt some methods that can demonstrate your mature temperament or gentle charm, such as inserting your hand into your pants pocket to show off your chest. If a method can be found to align the actions of both parties, such as drinking a drink together, it can also achieve good results.
2、 Experiencing fear together
Nothing can bring two people together more easily than an extreme situation. A stressful situation can make a significant change in your life. Research has shown that if a person is in a very emotional state when meeting others, it significantly increases their chances of obtaining a romantic feeling.
This is due to the close connection between panic, excitement, and admiration. In an experiment called "Swing Bridge" conducted in the 1970s, psychologists Adul Aron and Dan Daton found that if a man met a woman on a constantly shaking bridge, he would find the other person more sexy and romantic - significantly higher than when dating a woman on a low and stable bridge.
Of course, this does not mean that it is necessary to arrange the location of the first date under some very extreme conditions. In fact, in the relatively stable and stable era we are now living in, an experience in the amusement park may significantly increase our adrenaline levels.
Research has shown that couples are more likely to evoke mutual admiration after watching a film filled with suspense or tension, which is equivalent to watching those bland films. As for the reason, no one has been able to explain it clearly. Perhaps the increase in adrenaline concentration caused by fear plays a key role.
However, there is a small exception: Although stressful environments can make people who are already very cute seem more likeable, they can also make those who are not cute seem more annoying.
3、 Laugh together
Love and laughter always go hand in hand. Among the factors traditionally believed to generate affection between men and women, a sense of humor always occupies a very important position. Sharing laughter creates a sense of closeness between strangers.
American psychologists Adul Aaron and Dan Datong once conducted a very classic experiment. They have two strangers who don't know each other engage in game like activities such as learning to dance. During this period, they blindfolded one side and let the other side hold a straw (to prevent them from speaking freely). Although the sounds made by these two people seem a bit silly, it turns out that love does appear with laughter.
"Of course, it's impossible for us to cover the woman's eyes on the first date, but trying to tell some jokes is perfectly possible.".
