In the face of cruel reality, many men and women stop outside their marriage and dare not step into the trap of marriage, fearing that walking into the besieged city would ruin their years of sweet love and their happiness. When falling in love, one is only faced with the pure love of two people, while marriage is simply a "game" between two families.
Marriage is originally a great joy, but in some ways it is a "torture" for the groom and his family. From decorating the new house, to organizing the wedding, to the wedding ceremony, many aspects are borne by the man alone. "If you are lucky to encounter a friendly female family, it can be painful to encounter a picky one.".
Newly married men tend to have a defensive mentality, which is not childish and irresponsible, but rather a normal inner impulse. Many families, especially in China, once a man reaches his twenties, their family members begin to urge him to marry, which is the beginning of forming a fear of marriage for men, because they feel that their ideas about marriage are not yet mature, but their parents urge them to do so, making them more resistant to marriage under pressure.
In some marriage relationships, many of the emotions of young men begin to decline on the day they get married, exhibiting nervousness, anxiety, and confusion, and therefore wanting to escape reality. Originally, stepping into marriage from reality would have left a person at a certain level of confusion, while surrounding family and friends would have made a vague concept or explanation of his inner thoughts, causing him to experience nameless guilt and fear.
Although after marriage, I slowly explore and realize that I am not so afraid, it can also affect the feelings of both parties due to a psychological fear that began before and after marriage.
Men's attitudes and psychological characteristics are significantly different in love and after marriage. In love, men always form a feeling that women are weak, so they generally care for women. Women also exhibit dependency and appear to be weak because they are always taught by the idea of "not being too proactive about the men they like.".
However, when the wife happily prepares meals and boils the bath water for her husband for a period of time after marriage, the husband may naturally take it for granted, as is the case. "If one day there is no such thing as this, he will wonder and ask, 'Why didn't you boil the bath water today?' In his opinion, 'I work, you eat' is already a pattern.".
Until one day, his wife would also request, "Occasionally, let's eat out." He would begin to mutter in his heart, "What a wasteful spender.", "I'm really confused about finding such a lazy person." Men who get married mostly rely on a realistic principle.