Post Date December, 02 2023
A feeling of neglect
It is a very simple fact that within the first few weeks of a baby's birth, every inch of the mother's time is taken up. Therefore, fathers often feel neglected and even jealous. It is normal for a baby to take the place of her husband and become the new center of her life. Tell your wife how you feel when it comes to generating resentment and causing relationships to deteriorate. You can also play a more active role in caring for babies.
Things that are easily overlooked
Many new fathers mistakenly believe that their wives can cope with all this without any help. So when you find out that your wife is very dependent on you, it will be surprising. As long as the wife knows that you are around, she will have something to rely on. If you feel excluded because you cannot breastfeed, your wife may want to squeeze some milk into a bottle so that you can help breastfeed even in the middle of the night.
Afraid of hurting the baby
Babies seem to be fragile little things, so many men dare not do anything except hold them. Those men with younger siblings are not. In fact, as long as the baby's head is not thrown, ordinary falls will not hurt the baby. To overcome the fear of harming the baby, you can watch your wife or midwife take care of the baby, then try bathing the baby, helping your wife take care of the baby, and giving her a break.
Getting to know babies
If you take care of your baby lovingly every day - changing his diaper, bathing him, patting him, talking to him, and so on - this whole day contact will make you feel closer and closer to him.
Husband's reaction to wife's pregnancy
Husbands have different reactions to their wives' pregnancies: a sense of protection for their wives, a growing sense of pride in their marriage, pride in their male reproductive abilities (which is a problem that men are always worried about to some extent), and happy anticipation of the early birth of children. However, they also have a latent feeling of being left out (like a child's sense of being abandoned after discovering that their mother is pregnant), which can take the form of being rude to their wife, or wishing to spend more time with their male friends at night, or flirting with other women, among other things. These reactions are of no benefit to the wife, as she hopes to gain more support from her husband in the beginning of this strange life.
Fathers tend to experience a feeling of being left out before and after their children are born in the hospital. He helped to send his wife safely to the hospital, where many people took care of her. Therefore, unless doctors and nurses allow him to enter the waiting room and delivery room, he really stays alone in the hospital. He sat in the waiting room flipping through a few back issues of magazines, worried about whether his wife's childbirth was going smoothly. After his wife gave birth, he returned to his incredibly lonely home. No wonder husbands take advantage of this opportunity to have a drink with friends at a bar. He gets a bit of attention at work, but most of the time he's being teased by colleagues. When he went to the hospital to visit his wife and children, the hospital did not allow him to feel that he was the head of the family. He was only an ordinary visitor, and was only allowed to visit the mother and child at certain times. When it was time to take the mother and son home, everyone was concerned about the baby, and he seemed to play a major role as a porter. "I don't mean that my father expects to be the center of attention or should be noticeable at this time, but rather that he is more likely to feel insignificant and unnecessary at this time, so he will feel discouraged.". "If a husband actively experiences childbirth with his wife, he is less likely to experience this sense of frustration.".
The husband can now play an essential role in the wife's pregnancy and childbirth
He can accompany his wife to the hospital for prenatal examinations and lectures on childbirth. He can actively witness the entire childbirth process, and in some hospitals, he can also watch the birth of a child, watch a nurse cut the umbilical cord, or carry the baby to the nursery. He can also watch the child while his wife is being cared for by a nurse in the delivery room. His contact with his mother and son during hospitalization should not be restricted. If the wife feels uncomfortable or the baby has any special problems, he can also actively participate in the care of the baby and become the most active person in caring for the baby within a few hours after birth. As a result, he was no longer a self pity, unhappy bystander.
Husband's Support and Assistance If a father discovers that during his wife's pregnancy, during the chaotic entire delivery process, and after both mother and child have returned home from the hospital, his feelings for his wife and baby are sometimes extremely complex, he should not be surprised by this. However, he should remind himself that he may not be as emotionally volatile as his wife, especially after returning home from the hospital. The wife's body has undergone a significant change; She had a child for the first time, so she couldn't help worrying. Raising a child means requiring her to expend a great deal of physical and mental energy. All this means that most wives need a lot of support and comfort from their husbands at this time. A wife should receive more help and comfort from her husband than usual, so that she can make more sacrifices for the baby.
Husbands should help with babysitting and housework to a certain extent, and even provide more emotional support: patience, understanding, respect, and admiration. If the wife is exhausted and upset, she may not have the emotion to thank her husband for his efforts, or even complain, which may make his work very difficult. However, if he understood how much his wife wanted his love and help, he would help her anyway and dedicate sincere love.
