Post Date November, 17 2024
Recent physical examinations have shown that his sperm indicators are normal, and no diseases such as inflammation or tumors of the reproductive system have been found. The thick medical records they brought to Mr. Liu said: These doctors are powerless, they believe that seeing a psychologist is the last line of hope, our relationship is very good, and we don't think there are any psychological problems. But the final diagnosis and treatment results proved that the problem that troubled them for two years was precisely the psychological disorder that existed in their husband.
They are neighbors living in a large courtyard, childhood sweethearts, and have a deep understanding of each other. Under the age of 20, both the couple and their families have recognized their romantic relationship. The two houses are tight, with the girl living in the attic and the boy renting a small house of less than 6 square meters. This cottage has become their love nest in front of their own home.
Their love is sincere and passionate. However, this love nest cannot make them feel love and beauty quietly. The back window of the neighbor has become the only lighting channel in the shanty town, and the window of the other room in the shanty town. Using their descriptions, both one's own home and neighbor's house can hear a little movement. Before getting married, they stole the forbidden fruit, and in order not to be discovered, they must do their best to avoid noise. Every time it ends at the fastest speed, it is discovered multiple times and feels like the sex has been abruptly interrupted. For them, this charming forbidden fruit is like hiding it in their arms after stealing, but they haven't eaten it well.
After marriage, one can freely enjoy married life. However, on the first night of the wedding, the husband experienced an abnormality. He was very tired and wanted to rest when he suddenly ejaculated uncontrollably. The couple believes that this is the reason for fatigue and drinking on the same day, and similar situations often occur afterwards, leading to the development of functional disorders and temporary serious abnormalities. The doctor also knew that they wanted to have a romantic relationship earlier, and the husband secretly took medicine, even used divine oil, and even later took the medicine prescribed by the doctor without any effect. Under the guidance of the doctor, they recalled almost forgotten sexual experiences. That was an afternoon half a year ago when her husband requested to have sex with her after taking a shower, but she was unwilling to agree. That time, everything was normal for the husband, but unfortunately it was a safe period. At that time, the couple was surprised and believed that taking a prescription prescribed by traditional Chinese medicine was effective. Afterwards, everything became old.
When the husband spoke alone with the doctor, he was repeatedly consciously inspired and guided by the doctor. He also revealed secrets he had never told anyone before. He always slept with someone's woman in his dreams, and in the blur, he felt that everything was normal; After he finished, he stressed, "I really don't know who that woman is. My wife and I have absolutely no emotional rift; my wife and I are married for the first time. Traditionally, the negative impact of premarital sex is only considered from the perspective of morality and virginity. When it comes to the possible harm of premarital sex, only women are considered pregnant. In fact, premarital sex also causes serious harm to men.
When premarital sex occurs, if both parties are willing, men tend to be calmer than women in terms of the degree of sexual physiological and psychological reactions. Both parties are very nervous, but the male is determined by the physiological conditions of sexual hormone response, and the surrounding conditions are more sensitive and clear because he is afraid of being discovered by others. He strives to accelerate the quelling of his sexual impulse and force himself to stop sexual behavior. Of course, in this situation, women cannot receive the psychological and physiological satisfaction of normal sexual behavior. Especially for young people who discover that sexual behavior may be discontinued due to adverse stimuli. Over time, this potential suppression of guilt and negative psychological stimulation has formed a strong conditioned reflex on men.
Therefore, even after getting married, this established condition will not be effectively changed in a short period of time. This is like when we suddenly transition from a poor living environment to a more diverse one, where we cannot immediately enjoy life freely and instead experience a confused process of adaptation. Human sexual psychology is the psychological mechanism that is most susceptible to external stimuli in mental and psychological activities. Marriage is the sexual behavior state where psychological burden should not occur, but in real life, there are not many cases of temporary imbalance among first-time couples, and it often occurs in men. On the first night of his new marriage, the husband experienced intense conflicts between emotional excitement and sexual psychological barriers. He could not rule out the existence of previous conditioned reflexes and experienced abnormal ejaculation after relaxing. Unfortunately, they did not know that it was related to premarital sex and did not make psychological adjustment in time. In this way, suspecting illness and taking medication in a hurry to achieve pregnancy increases the husband's tension and anxiety, making his sexual psychology unhealthy.
Due to the long-term occurrence of premarital sex, the wife and husband lost their sense of freshness after marriage, had more frequent sex, and had a clearer purpose, which played a role in reviewing the psychological obstacles of the husband when they were invisible. Therefore, the husband mentioned the normal sexual and psychological activity patterns that occur occasionally in his dreams after his wife takes a shower during the day. However, he must break free from the already formed conditioned reflex constraints, relax his mental and psychological reflex amnesia, and awaken sexual interest again in a new situation that can restore mental health.
For the wife, premarital sex also caused her psychological oppression, and she wanted to get normal satisfaction after marriage. However, she was unaware that her husband's sexual psychology had been harmed, so she did not gradually awaken and assist with necessary guidance and comfort consciousness as she did with a patient with amnesia like that. It should be said that she discovered her husband's sexual dysfunction earliest and felt the most deeply, but thought it was due to other diseases, and her husband's abnormal performance was more severe.
They were treated for 7 months. We applied anti anxiety drugs and neurotrophic drugs to provide them with detailed behavioral guidance. Last autumn, they all went on a trip and shortly after returning, they reported to Mr. Liu, 'My husband's function has basically returned to normal, and my wife is pregnant.'.
Doctor Liu said that premarital sex is a typical case of psychological damage to men. In fact, the more subtle harm has not been fully recognized by everyone. The more laissez faire premarital sex of a man will make his sexual interest more and more numb, recognize the sexual psychological and physiological signals in the married couple's sexual life, and seriously affect the quality of married sexual life. In this way, even if there is no crisis in the marital relationship, his sexual interest needs to be awakened; His psychological needs also make him particularly sensitive to receiving new sexual psychological and physiological signals. Therefore, we should recognize and strive to avoid the psychological harm of premarital sex to men. After marriage, both husband and wife should pay attention to getting rid of the psychological shadow formed by this harm, and jointly cultivate a healthy psychological activity mode of sexual behavior, so as to better enjoy the beauty of life.
