Pay attention to sex education for infants and young children, benefiting for a lifetime

How old should we start? Domestic experts tend to have a consistent view: the earlier you start after puberty, the better. Some insightful people suggest starting from childhood. He Feng, the first person to conduct research on folk sexuality in our province and the Vice President of Henan Sexual Health Education Promotion Association, proposed that it should start at the age of zero, or even in the mother's womb. The age of 0 to 3 is a very important period.

Is it too exaggerated for infants and young children? In fact, when adults talk about sex, they associate it with sexual behavior. This is very narrow. For infants, the main focus is on shaping gender roles and establishing sexual psychological behavior patterns.

Same sex parents are the gender model for babies

Little white-collar mother, seeing her two year old son imitating her father's appearance, stood up and urinated while holding the chicken with her hands, immediately felt uneasy and scolded her son for his rough behavior: How could this be? Ask your son to squat down and pee obediently.

He Feng said that this mother is not adapted to the gender role of a boy, and it is natural for a man to stand and urinate, otherwise the man's toilet would not have a built-in urinal.

He Feng said that in foreign countries, gender roles are formed from the fetal stage. Pregnant women are male fetuses, and if they are pregnant, they should be decisive and dignified. If they are pregnant, they should wear solid colored clothes. Pregnant women should be gentle and elegant, and wear colorful clothes. After the birth of a baby, parents should demonstrate the correct gender roles by naming the child, selecting toys and clothing, and so on. For example, boys should wear solid colored clothes, toy cars, toy guns, etc. to shape a brave masculine temperament. Girls should wear colorful clothes, plush toys, and a gentle feminine temperament.

Same sex parents are the template for the formation of gender awareness in treasures, while opposite sex parents are a model for learning and interacting with treasures. It is perfectly normal for teenagers to imitate their fathers. Parents of the opposite sex should give enough love. If boys lack fatherly love from an early age, they may lean towards a feminine temperament. If they are very light, it is difficult for them to integrate into normal social circles. If they are heavy, they may lead to homosexuality or transsexuality (there are different opinions on the causes of homosexuality. There are congenital genetic and environmental factors, but errors between the ages of 0 and 3 are considered important reasons).

Don't easily label children with masturbation labels

What should children do if they always touch their own chickens? This is a headache for many parents. He Feng believes that children aged two or three are simply curious and do not have adult sexual concepts. Parents talk about their fingers, their attitude is natural, and when they talk about their penis, they are shy and blurry. These behavioral languages of parents strengthen the specificity of the reproductive organs. Similarly, if a child encounters a chick and labels it as masturbating, scaring and cursing, this behavior will naturally strengthen. If we can mention the reproductive organs generously and calmly, guide them naturally and scientifically, and divert children's attention, the problem will be solved. (From: Net)

Is it shameful for the guardian to touch the mother's breasts after the child finishes milk? He Feng said that allowing children to touch and gradually fade away is like a child getting tired of playing with toys, which can distract their attention. Children's behavior is natural, and adults use their own values to measure it, forming many constraints and becoming problems.