Marriage is not a small matter, especially for women, they need to think carefully. After all, after marrying someone, they will be fixed in their lifetime. If they divorce, it will be even harder to get married again. Moreover, physical and emotional costs cannot be compensated. Therefore, women must carefully consider marriage issues and regulate their behavior, and cannot do the following nine foolish things.
1. Don't let your in-laws meet too early
I thought that when the parents of both parties met and walked almost to the point where it was good for me, it was actually a big mistake. After getting familiar with each other, misunderstandings would gradually arise due to different lifestyle habits. In severe cases, no one could bear to see each other, and in the end, it was difficult for you to handle it. The best thing is that it's time to get married, and it's best for both families to meet again and maintain a polite attitude! It's best to meet less after getting married! As the saying goes, "Distance produces beauty
2. Don't develop a shopping preference for your future husband's family
Don't be too fond of buying things for your mother-in-law and father-in-law on holidays before marriage, but don't make any demands on your husband when you come to your own house. For a long time, the husband will gradually get used to thinking that it is normal to buy things for his mother and father, and form the concept that girls should focus on the husband's family when getting married. I suggest that when buying gifts during holidays, both parties should share it with each other and develop a habit of getting married before it's easy to handle.
3. Don't be too enthusiastic about taking on the household chores of your husband's family before marriage
Don't take the initiative to cook, do laundry, or do laundry for your husband before getting married. Girls should maintain a certain level of reserve, otherwise it will make their mother-in-law think you care about their son or their family! Do something appropriate, but don't invest too much!
4. Don't talk too much about your own family in your husband's house
When speaking unintentionally, the listener has a heart. Don't talk to your mother-in-law about your own family. If you feel bored, talk about TV dramas and current affairs. The less you know about your own family, the better! Especially with siblings, whose parents bought a house for, who bought a car, and so on! In the future, when you buy a house, a car, and other things, your mother-in-law will pay attention to whether you have received support from your mother's family!
5. Don't meet your husband's family too early
I think it's okay for you to meet again. After seeing it, don't grow up in your husband's house all day, otherwise it will make them feel that you care too much about their son's relationship, and girls should hold onto it when they should be more polite.
6. Never stay overnight at your husband's house before marriage
Overnight at the husband's house too early, for the same reason as the third commandment, there is no mistake!
7. Having sexual intercourse before marriage is known to the mother-in-law's family
Can you still say the reason! Let my family look down on me! Catch up with a busy mother-in-law, you're dead!
8. On New Year's Eve, go to your husband's house for New Year's Eve!
After marriage, there is plenty of time, so now it's better to spend more time with your parents! The reason is the same as the third commandment!
9. Learn to say 'no'
When your mother-in-law is impolite to you or your family in terms of words or behavior, or makes unreasonable demands, promptly and politely stop or refuse! Don't blindly adopt a tolerant and evasive approach. Do you understand what it means to intensify! Of course, one should be civilized and polite! Maintain a ladylike demeanor! be neither humble nor pushy!