Post Date December, 02 2023
The first type: gazing ahead, not looking back, maintaining dignity: don't look for him, don't connect with him, don't dwell on the past. Although I may make mistakes (everyone makes mistakes) and have flaws (everyone has flaws), I still have my own dignity. I want to maintain my dignity, look forward, and move forward!
The second method is to vent our emotions appropriately: don't let sadness, frustration, and anger accumulate and eat into our body and mind. To cry, when taking a shower, you can cry to your heart's content. If you want to scream, find a place without anyone and shout loudly. To tear it, close the door and tear it vigorously. If you want to confide, have a good conversation with a close friend. But when venting, be sure to pay attention to the target person, and do not arbitrarily find someone to be a bad luck ghost, throw tantrums at him, and harm the innocent.
The third way: to appear indifferent: although it is impossible to truly not care, speaking and doing so in action will affect one's heart. You can think of it this way: 'He doesn't care anymore, why should I care?' or 'The best way to deal with someone who doesn't care is to live a good life.' Or 'You have to watch me feel sad and painful, but I don't want you to be satisfied.' - These ideas can help us avoid falling into the vortex of bad emotions.
The fourth method is to remove his traces: filter out everything he gives you one by one. Useful things can be kept, which will make you recall the past and throw away everything, so as not to make yourself sad or angry. Also, don't go to places you used to go to, so as not to hurt yourself and make you feel down.
Fifth method: Take out a pen and paper, and list their pros and cons separately: If their pros outweigh their cons, why do you care about them? If what you love is the emotions you put in, then forget it! Spare yourself. If his strengths and weaknesses are equal, then don't worry, you will encounter people who are more attractive to you than him. If he only has advantages without disadvantages (or there are few disadvantages), then you need to circle one below: (1) He is perfect. (Is it possible -) (2) You are blind. Either you don't really understand him, or what you love is an illusory ideal image (created by yourself or fabricated by him). This kind of love is not real, not solid, and cannot be maintained. Break up early, good morning!
The sixth type: participating in activities, spending time with others, and discussing interesting topics: parties, gatherings, outings, dances, watching performances, playing ball, and other dynamic activities with many people participating, it is important to open up and join others' conversations as much as possible, explore humorous and interesting topics, laugh with everyone, and the mood will turn to cheerful.
The seventh option is to leave and travel: join a tour group or go to a different country or place with a group of friends to play or do research. The cultural atmosphere of a different place will be refreshing to you. Expanding one's horizons and generating new feelings within oneself, old troubles shrink, fade away, and fade away.
Eighth type: Contact with old friends: During love, "valuing sex over friends" completely disregards the life or death of your old friends. Now that you have returned to "single" status, if you don't take this opportunity to "surrender and repent" to your old friends - who would know you like an old friend, not blame you, tolerate you, and cherish you - Being with them, you don't have to hide it, feel free and content, and have no self denial or doubt after a breakup, which helps to restore your true colors.
The ninth type: Investing in work and research: It's easy to get distracted when in love, but now you can finally focus entirely on work and coursework. Transforming grief into strength, working hard, will bring unexpected achievements, and other honors will follow. This is the so-called one gain, one loss: if God closes this door, he will open another door for you.
