Post Date December, 02 2023
When two unrelated people come together, there will inevitably be many contradictions that follow. Although you began to love each other, even though you loved each other more than yourself.
But in our different growth experiences, two people's different perspectives, habits, and even hobbies can be vastly different. We are once again trapped in contradictions
Since we love each other but have many conflicts, the fundamental reason is that we do not realize that conflicts between two people are inevitable. To solve these problems, we can open up our minds and allow all the small things that affect our love to be "free".
Inappropriate 'instructor'
In the marriage of two people, what we must achieve is to forget our own standards and not be the instructor.
I don't need to explain what an instructor is. The standard of an instructor is the only code of conduct for those new recruits, and anyone who fails will have to pay a price. So, in marriage, if you also follow this way of life, your spouse will create trouble for you that new recruits have never had before.
So, we need to learn to identify with the other party's thoughts, words, and actions, so that all reasonable suggestions can be recognized and implemented.
Inappropriate 'judge'
None of us who are born physically dare to say that we have never made any mistakes, whether in work or life. Everyone has occasional negligence. If we ignore or ignore those small omissions, it is actually a liberation for others and also a liberation for ourselves.
We cannot put on the same airs of a "judge" in marriage, as anyone who makes a mistake must be thoroughly corrected. This is unnecessary, what is needed in marriage is tolerance, not just the "right" and "wrong" in your judge's heart.
Inappropriate "speech officials"
Perhaps the word 'Yanguan' may be a bit unfamiliar to us. Yan Guan was an important component of the feudal bureaucratic structure in ancient times, especially in the Ming Dynasty where Yan Guan's "words" could be said to have caused chaos throughout the day.
This is the kind of official who should never do it in marriage 5 secrets to handling conflicts between spouses
In marriage, if there are any conflicts between each other, and you fully exert your spirit of speaking, you always have to make things big, either finding parents or making friends. The small matters between husband and wife have suddenly become internal conflicts within the entire family
The consequences of doing so are unimaginable. If a conflict arises, it is best to resolve it on your own. It is not too late to think of other ways.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
