My wife scolded me for being incompetent when I came home from a business trip. After seeing her mobile phone, I filed for a divorce

It was at the urging of my parents that my wife, whom I knew, married and had children. After marriage, our feelings fluctuated. She looked down upon me and often said in front of me, "I can't see the future, I can't see hope. How can I live in the future?"? She always adds negative energy to me, and nothing I can do to her can change her mind. She has positioned me in her heart as a man with no ability.

If I were given another chance, I would never marry her. Now that I have a child, I can't part with the family relationship that I can't part with. Let me temporarily put down my resentment in my heart. My wife is engaged in sales work and has a relatively easygoing personality. This is only for others, but for me, she is very rude and domineering. I never dare to bring colleagues to play at home, just for fear that she will not be happy and give me face. Everyone said we were not suitable, but I was still struggling to enter her heart.

Every time I come back from a business trip, I bring gifts for her and her children. Maybe it's a farewell to the newlyweds. I can feel that she has no antipathy towards me. The sexual affairs at night are also quite smooth, unlike the various expressions of her reluctance when she is at home every day. However, some time ago, after a business trip for a week, she didn't give me a word of greeting after returning home. She didn't let me touch her at night, saying it was her physiological period, but I clearly remember her physiological period before I left. "I threw out the question, but she said, 'It's okay to have irregular menstruation.'". Looking at her impatient expression, I was in a very bad mood.

She fiddled with her mobile phone and giggled while chatting, making me very depressed. "I want to know my wife, and I did something shameful. While she was asleep, I peeked at her phone.". The result surprised me. She even flirted with other men, and what made me even more disgusting was comparing me to them, saying that I was incompetent and couldn't give her pleasure.

"I was so angry that I broke her sleep with a loud noise that she was woken up. Seeing my angry expression, she went up and slapped me in the face, swearing that I was insane. I asked her if she was cheating, but she couldn't explain why.". "When I proposed a divorce, she sneered and said that if I were to leave the house clean, the children wouldn't want it, because I proposed the divorce. If she wanted to agree, she must agree to her terms.".

"I became angry with embarrassment. The woman in front of me was both terrifying and strange. The child was crying and telling us not to make any noise, but not to make any noise. I felt like my lungs were going to explode.". My wife has never looked up to me, even if she cheated on me and still looked so confident, it makes me angry to think about it. Could you tell me exactly what I should do?

Reply from the maintenance consultant:

In her mind, she has already positioned you as a man without skills, so no matter what you do, she will feel insignificant. Endlessly stimulating you, just for a trace of pain in your heart. Your lack of calmness will make her more confident and say something that will make you mentally out of the house. As a man, you should be able to hold onto your weaknesses and let them grasp them. They will only trample on your self-esteem at will. The division of property in divorce can be safeguarded by law. However, if you don't want a divorce, you can only communicate well with your wife and analyze the benefits of divorce to your family and children. If she still has feelings for you, she will definitely respect you. If she feels that there is no need to continue the conversation, then divorce is your best choice.