Post Date December, 03 2023
I have been married to my husband for seven years. It happened four years ago. After getting married, because my husband didn't like to argue with me, I became angry and chose to cheat with netizens. Then, feeling guilty, I confessed the truth to my husband and hoped he would forgive me.
At that time, he didn't say anything, but from then on, he left a shadow in his heart. Every day because of a small family matter, he hit me. Although we live in the same bed every day, we don't want to sleep together. Every time we don't need me, we never talk to me. When we need me, we solve it and leave. I can't bear this torture. I suggested sleeping in separate rooms, but he enjoys being alone and has never approached me. I asked him why he didn't want to be with me, and he said he disliked me for being dirty.
I have also mentioned divorce, but due to document issues and the fact that we have two daughters and his own family is not good, he disagrees and I cannot force a lawsuit. Out of concern for my child, I also have a disability and the future path is not easy to take.
We both have shortcomings and may have a lot to consider, but I can't bear what he is doing to me now. How should I face such a marriage? I hope the teacher has a good way to change my current marital status now.
reply:
In marriage, some mistakes can be forgiven, while others may not be forgotten for a lifetime. For example, cheating and betrayal, especially in men, the shame brought to them by the green hat will be unforgettable memories. From this perspective, when a woman does something wrong to her husband due to a momentary impulse, even if you feel deeply guilty without the other party's knowledge, you should still keep this infidelity deep in your heart and keep it a secret for marriage. Use other ways to compensate.
In fact, to put it bluntly, your discomfort today was entirely self inflicted. Whether it's a couple arguing, having conflicts, or having prejudices against each other, you can use communication and communication to solve the problem, rather than resorting to extreme retaliation. Your actions are not only insulting your husband, but also harming yourself. Some things are not something that you can do if you want to. If you make a mistake and correct yourself, the clouds will all dissipate for a day, and you will ultimately have to pay the price for your wrong behavior.
The reality is that after you betrayed him, your husband neither chose to divorce you nor forgive you, but chose to torture you anytime and anywhere in this marriage. You're right, there's a shadow inside him, he can't get out of this knot, he can't get rid of this knot, this is a psychological barrier that most men cannot overcome. For this reason, you are all in great pain in this marriage.
At present, since you both don't have the courage to face each other and say goodbye, you can only choose a compromise and hope that time will resolve the gap, but to be honest, it may be difficult. Have more patience, in order to win the forgiveness of your husband as soon as possible, use practical actions to influence the other party. Who makes you the wrong party. If the existing situation cannot be reconciled through any effort, choosing a divorce is a helpless move. Therefore, you must make up your mind to obtain liberation.
