My husband's staying at someone else's house overnight without coming home made me suspicious

I have been married for eight years and have two children. My son is nine years old and my daughter is six years old! I chased my husband back then! Now I feel like he has changed and turned a blind eye to me. I feel so uncomfortable. What's wrong with this?

I gained a lot of weight after giving birth, and my husband won't even take me out to play! Sometimes when I go to my husband's company to play, he seems very angry! My husband often goes out to play, I think he has a woman outside! My husband is talking and laughing with other women outside, but when he comes home, he has nothing to say to me!

One night I wasn't at home, and the next morning I came back early, but my husband wasn't at home either. I called him and he said he was sleeping at a friend's house. I used to believe in my husband, but now I'm so worried, I don't know what to do?

I want a divorce, and I can't bear to part with my child. Should I talk to my husband? But if I say he has a woman outside and no evidence, he will definitely not admit it. When I was in love, I chased him. I don't think he loves me at all, and I know I'm not the one in his heart. I feel so tired, I don't want this kind of life, I want a divorce!

My husband is like a young child, and I also feel that having a husband is like having an extra son. He worries me about everything, but he never listens to me. I am very annoyed. I hate this kind of life and I also hate this kind of husband. What should I do?

reply:

Men are not for chasing, but for hanging. In the stage of love, the more actively a woman throws herself in her arms, the less likely a man will cherish you. Only when you satisfy his appetite, will he take you seriously. It's best for girls to maintain a sense of reserve and avoid doing things like chasing after men in the next layer of gauze until it's a last resort.

After marriage, if you give birth to a child for your husband, your body becomes bloated. It wasn't your fault, but if you don't work hard to lose weight and don't quickly return or approach your former slim state, your husband will feel that it's your fault and gradually get tired of you. For this reason, women need to be ruthless before marriage in order to pursue and get the man they want, but they also need to be ruthless after marriage. Otherwise, if you don't have a strong persistent pursuit of maintaining both beauty and sexiness, how can you hold onto the man who attracts you?

Especially if your husband runs his own company, it's easy to attract bees and attract women from outside. Of course, attracting men not only depends on external hardware, but also on internal cultivation and magnanimity. If you can keep up with your husband's pace at any time, your words and actions, every move, every smile, if you can handle it properly, then your husband will also find it difficult to fall into her embrace.

As a woman, after marriage, do not revolve around the children, let alone the pot table. Instead, maintain your own independent space and have your own pursuit. Also, don't let your husband get a little flustered and lose control. Faced with signals that your man may have a different heart, you must stabilize your mind, clarify the reasons for the current situation, and make timely improvements and adjustments to solve the problem.

If you think your husband betrayed you in marriage and you want to choose a divorce based on this, then don't just be paranoid there, but find ways to find evidence and use facts to strengthen your determination; If you firmly believe that your husband doesn't love you at all, and that being with him is just a wishful possession, then I think your marriage is indeed very sad, and your fatigue is entirely on your own. Since we acted recklessly in the beginning, we must now adhere to a mature attitude.

Next, take a good look at your marriage, and after careful consideration, follow your inner truth and make the right choice. If you want to leave this marriage just because of children, then I can tell you that no marriage should use children to bind your own happiness in life. In the end, if you don't get happiness yourself, the other party will also suffocate, and the children will also suffer deeply in this siege without love.