Post Date December, 02 2023
I have been married for eleven years, and my life has always been a good one. My son is ten years old, beautiful and lovely. In a quarrel last year, he admitted that there were women outside, but he had never spent the night outside, quarreled and quarreled, and finally chose to continue living for his son. He said that they had broken up, and I also felt that he had changed his family, children and me.
A few days ago, he went on a business trip and was still fine before leaving. Suddenly, he sent a message saying that he wanted to divorce. He said that they had never stopped. He really didn't think about it. If I agreed, he would divorce. If I didn't agree, he would not come back. My heart broke at once. I had a deep feeling with him. He said that he had no feelings with me. I came back yesterday with a firm attitude. I went out of the house and asked me to take my son with me. I have suffered a lot these days, thought a lot, and wanted to continue, but his attitude is very firm and ruthless.
I don't want to be a divorced woman. I don't want my child to have a complete family. Last night, he stayed at home and slept with his son. I felt that he really loved his son, that is, he couldn't live with me. I said I don't care what you do outside, just give us a home. He didn't listen to anyone. His family and friends almost deserted and were determined to divorce. That woman has some money, but not too much. She is the same age as him, 38 years old, divorced, childless, and is his female boss. He said that they had been together for eight or nine years, and now they had resigned together and would go to other places to develop together.
What should I do now? No divorce, they left. Divorce, I have always been a little arrogant woman, living a good life, and others envy me. After divorce, my son and I will be laughed at to death. It's too difficult. I have a heart to die. After divorce, I'm really afraid that I can't survive, and I don't want to lose him. Although he betrayed me these years, he has always been very good to me. So this time, I'm going crazy. What should I do?
Reply:
From your account, your husband and divorced female boss have been together for eight or nine years. In the past, they have been cheating on you without mentioning divorce, which means that they have not reached a certain agreement. On this business trip, he suddenly asked for divorce, and insisted on divorce at the expense of betrayal. He must have reached some agreement with his female boss during this business trip, which contributed to his craziness.
Marriage is a dance for two, but one can't dance well if he wants to. I understand your psychology and all kinds of concerns about not wanting to divorce, but if he really wants to go, just worrying about fear will not solve the problem. As you said, they will leave without divorce. What's the use of leaving an empty marriage?
"I said I don't care what you do outside, just give us a home." I saw your weakness and helplessness. Marriage needs to be cherished, but it cannot be cherished without bottom line and dignity. Without the bottom line and dignity, you can't get the other party's stability, which will only make the other party look down on you more.
Since life is "not salty", why not take this opportunity to knock that woman a sum of money and let her rival pay to "buy" the cheating man?
Don't plead with him if you don't want to divorce. It is suggested that you agree to divorce and then offer a divorce condition beyond his financial ability. If he agrees, he can get a sum of money from his rival as compensation. If he doesn't agree, he can delay the divorce first. Don't be afraid of them. The love between male subordinates and female superiors is only suitable for stealing. Public cohabitation may not go far, as long as it can be dragged down, there is hope.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
