Post Date December, 02 2023
I met my husband in 2009. At that time, I broke up with my ex-boyfriend soon. Most of the reasons for breaking up were me. Because he was so kind to me at that time, I was very headstrong, so he said he was too tired to choose to break up. I am very sorry and regretful. Later, I met my husband, who was also very kind to me. I also wanted to find a way to rely on him at that time, and soon accepted him.
Until four months later, his family suddenly knew my existence, and asked my husband directly to see if he could get married earlier (his family is from other places, and he didn't meet his family before marriage)? Later, I asked my parents, and they said they could make their own decisions, so I agreed. Because of his business, we chose to buy a house near my home by stages, but the life after marriage is not the same as I imagined, and all the shortcomings are exposed to me.
I found myself pregnant within two months of my marriage. During that time, he went to the Internet cafe all night, even left me unlocked at home, and slept at home during the day. When he called for goods in the factory, he went there, and earned enough money to support the family.
It was not easy to do business until 2011. We opened a restaurant. I took care of the small restaurant with him while taking care of the children. At the beginning, the business was good. Although I felt tired, I at least had a good time. Gradually, he began to be less diligent. The shopping was also delayed until about noon, and the business was not as good as before. The rent of 2 years expired, and the road was repaired at the door of the hotel, so it was transferred out.
At this time, his relatives said they wanted to buy a store and become a restaurant because we had experience and wanted us to go. I was pregnant with a second child at that time, but I also ran upstairs and downstairs every day. I didn't want his family to gossip. However, the business of the restaurant was not good at the beginning, and it was not long before the door was closed. At this time, he had been idle at home. I went to work to earn money, because there was no less quarrel. I have to pay back the loan every month and the tuition fees of my children. I'm under great pressure. I can't afford it. I went to get a loan and apply for a credit card. Then I asked my parents for some money.
What I care about most is not this, because he is really bad to me. He has never said a word about me, and he never asks when he is sick. Sometimes he can't sleep with his menstrual period, and he will swear. With him, I didn't have Valentine's Day, nor did I have a birthday, nor did I remember the date of my wedding anniversary. Whenever I mentioned divorce, he would threaten me with children. I simply quit my job and lost my income. I want to give him some pressure. Then, he went to his relatives' house and started to run. I also found a job again. I could take two children with me while working. At first, it was OK. He sent me some money to repay the loan, but we basically had no contact during this period. After working for two months, he said that he was too tired to work, and I mentioned divorce again.
He came straight back without saying hello. He thought I had someone else to do this. So he grabbed my mobile phone and turned it over all the time. When he found nothing, he gave it to me. When he spoke to me, I thought I didn't hear him. He grabbed my neck in anger and said to kill me. I thought if it wasn't because I was lying on the ground and he pinched me in the wrong position, I might have been strangled by him.
After that, he kept talking for more than an hour. He asked me why on earth and didn't know what was wrong with him? He said that divorce was OK. He wanted to take all the children away and never see them again. He knew that I couldn't bear the children and I wanted to sue for divorce, but he said that if one of the two children gave me, he would find someone to work hard and die together. Anyway, he was not afraid of this life.
I know his character. He can really do it. But if I don't divorce, I really think I will go crazy. I have no feelings for him, and I will be afraid to see him. But what can I do about divorce?
reply:
To you, you don't cherish; It seems to be good to you, but you cherish it in a hurry.
When you enter this marriage with the mentality of hate marriage or healing, you are doomed to the fate after marriage. Your unhappy marriage is the result of your own choice. No wonder others can only reflect on yourself.
Many times, marriage is really to marry fate. This fate is full of uncertainty, especially when you can not grasp the other party and yourself well. Therefore, the most taboo in choosing marriage is hurry. If you get married in a hurry, don't rush to have children. If you get married in a hurry, don't rush to have a second child. You see, you are in a series of hurry, without giving yourself a chance to breathe and buffer. As a result, when your marriage is unhappy, these become obstacles that hinder and restrict you.
If you are not satisfied with your marriage and your spouse, of course you have the right to choose to dissolve your marriage. However, you must be sober enough to make a choice in a completely calm state, rather than impulsive and casual as before marriage. After all, you have two children. As a mother of two children, you should face your family and marriage with enough maturity. This includes whether you have enough ability to divorce, make yourself happier than you are now after marriage, and have enough earning power to support yourself and your children.
Of course, just leave when you think about it! As for your husband threatening you with children and scaring you with all his strength, I don't think you need to worry too much in this era of rule of law. I don't believe he dare not take his life and others' life seriously. If you can't reach a settlement in the agreement, you can fully take the legal weapon to protect your rights and interests. The custody of your child is not what he says you want. As long as you don't want to shirk your responsibility as a mother, there are always ways and means to solve the problem of child custody. However, you need to pay attention not to have a direct conflict with him, and know how to protect yourself and your family and children at the right time. In short, use your wisdom, follow your inner truth, face the current marriage, keep a calm, not afraid, not reckless, and make your right choice.
