My husband started to ignore me after attending the classmate meeting, which made me sad

My husband and I have been married for 20 years. There is no vigorous love between us, but it is also flat and happy. We have a son and a daughter. Usually, we respect each other and do things with business and quantity. But a few months ago, the original calm life was completely broken because of a classmate gathering of our husband.

One of my husband's classmate meetings was drinking karaoke with his male and female classmates. The most annoying thing was that he didn't go home this evening and stayed in the hotel (for a reason, he had to send his son to school the next morning, but of course he didn't stay with his son. He said he was with a male classmate. I doubt it, but there is no evidence).

After the reunion, they established a WeChat group, and he talked very late every day. At that time, I didn't say anything. Later, it was the same. During this period, he ignored my feelings and snubbed me. My intuition told me that he was attracted by external things. I talked with him and improved.

In WeChat, a female classmate sent something that he paid special attention to and commented on. It was different from others. I asked him. He didn't say it. At my strong request, he explained to me that WeChat was just for fun. The female classmate liked him when he was at school. He said he didn't have that idea at that time.

What I want to ask Brother Shan is, will my husband strike a spark of love with him? After a few days, they will get together again. Should I stop him? There is already a man and a woman in their classmates who have a relationship because of the party. What should I do?

I don't think there will be a one-night stand husband. He is a person with a moral bottom line. He may be prone to spiritual derailment and appreciate the inner and intellectual. His classmates are just like this. What should I do? My expression is not very good. I hope you can understand it. Thank you and look forward to your reply.

In his 20 years of marriage, he has never praised me. I can't do anything better. I can't find my value. I'm tired. I don't want to live like this. Now, when I think of the previous days, I feel like a needle stuck in my heart. I feel so bitter. I don't trust him any more. Although life continues, happiness is gone. It's all false.

reply:

1. Nowadays, there is a popular saying: Homecoming Homecoming, breaking up a pair is a pair! Such a remark, which seems to be full of sarcasm, actually reflects certain drawbacks and problems existing in various student gatherings. The original intention of the reunion was to contact the long-lost pure feelings and to rediscover the good memories of the year, but it has become a hotbed for some people with ulterior motives to develop extramarital affairs. It is really a sad thing.

2. As far as your husband is concerned, he is no exception. All kinds of signs show that he is wrapped up in the long-lost feelings at the party, and may have a feeling for the girl who liked her in the past. After all, your marriage is as flat, calm and calm as ever. It is inevitable that your life will be impacted by your classmates' reunion. I understand your worry and anxiety.

3. It's just that there is not enough evidence in hand, and you don't need to make yourself too nervous. Instead of being nervous and worried, it's better to put your energy into managing your marriage. Moreover, it is normal for students to get a little excited at the first one or two meetings because they haven't seen each other for many years. I think that with the passage of time and the increase of parties, their enthusiasm will gradually stabilize.

4. If you really don't trust your husband, I suggest you let him take you with you at the next classmate party. I don't think it's too much. If he insists on not taking it, you can interfere with him to attend the party, because it can show that he doesn't respect you enough and that he has hidden thoughts, so you can fully argue with him about it.

5. Marriage is like this. If you live together for a long time, you will lose the original romance and praise because of aesthetic fatigue and the insipidity of life. You don't need to care too much about these. You just feel with your heart whether you and the family still have responsibilities or not. You need to release and think about your tiredness by yourself. It's better to have a mind of letting nature take its course. Don't be too demanding. What is yours is yours, and what is not yours is in vain. Let your mind be positive and sunny, live a wonderful life for women, and present a free and easy feeling, which may attract your husband again.