Post Date December, 02 2023
"I have been married to my husband for nearly four years, and I have had a very depressing four years. My husband is unwilling to communicate with me or get close to me.". We also don't communicate with each other due to many small things in life, which have developed into major events and hurt each other! When I left home, I also criticized him in front of people, and even threw a beer bottle in front of people
"I am a forgetful person, and I can't remember many things he hurt me. What's worse, I forget things he doesn't like, so I often make the same mistakes and irritate him.". So the only thing I can do is try not to talk to him or ask about his affairs, but I love my husband and I hope we can keep going.
In fact, every day, I reflect on what I did not do well (I am also a strong person) and what I should do to make our relationship between husband and wife better. "But I really can't believe what the reason is. My husband always ignores me, ignores me, and even if I ask him, he ignores me.". "He didn't ask me about my brother in bed, and even more importantly, if I asked for it on my own initiative, he refused.". I have a feeling that he has physiological needs, but he just refuses to do it with me!
Someone told me that he couldn't let go of his ex girlfriend, so he turned me down from the bottom of his heart. But what is certain is that he couldn't have an affair with that woman (because that woman is in the distance), so even if his mind is having an affair, how can his physical needs be solved? Am I really annoying him that much?
"I am a normal woman, and I have also retaliated against him for cheating (he doesn't know, at best, he suspects). I thought I would feel better doing this in my heart, but the truth is completely opposite, and I still can't let my husband go.". Even if his indifference to me makes me feel like I'm dying, I still don't want a divorce, mainly because I can't let him go! Excuse me, what can I do to change the relationship between our husband and wife? I really don't want a divorce.
reply:
Hello, I don't know how you got married in the first place. Your husband wasn't in this state at first, was he? Why does your husband get so bored with you? You say he's reflecting every day, but can't you really find the reason? Communication is important between couples, as is respect and equality. You said you hurt each other, you walked away from home, criticized him in front of others, and even threw a beer bottle into a rage. Most importantly, you betrayed him in order to retaliate. It can be seen that you are not a good woman, and you are too impulsive and don't consider the consequences. Have you ever been aware of these weaknesses and have you ever corrected them? If you can't eliminate these smelly problems in your body, your husband will naturally continue to snub you.
Marriage needs to be managed, emotions need to be nurtured, and love needs to be paid. If you can't let go of your husband, you need to learn to lower your profile and please him instead of always confronting him. That's not good. "Only when two people have a harmonious relationship and a close heart can all the following problems be solved and resolved, including the private affairs of marital life. To have the pleasure of having a bed, one must first open the door to the heart.". Never cheat and betray your husband again. Finding psychological balance for yourself in this way is undoubtedly a form of indulgence and depravity, but also a form of stupidity. In the end, it will only cause you to swallow the bitter fruit and plunge into deeper pain. Once discovered by your husband, this marriage will be completely over.
So, if you want to repair your marital relationship, it's best to start by adjusting your mindset. From now on, learn to understand and care more about your husband's inner needs, make yourself more gentle, virtuous, and small. Only by changing yourself from the inside out, making yourself more feminine, learning to know the cold and the hot, understanding how to respect men, and giving him face can he re-examine you, accept you, and change his attitude towards you.
