Post Date December, 02 2023
Both sons and daughters. After graduating from college and working for three years, he married, and then gave birth to children at home and spent six years with them. Now we are working again. Although compared with all my classmates, I am the worst. My family is not rich, and I have no house or car, but it is very warm, so I am content with the status quo. However, since 2009, her husband's cheating has broken the peace.
My husband's idea is that he must have more children. He said that his cheating is to have more children. In his words, it is "for the prosperity after death". But in my opinion, one child is enough. In order to accommodate him, I have only two children. However, this is far from reaching his goal.
In October 2009, he told me that he was going to marry a second wife. She was pregnant for 4 months. My accident and pain are needless to say. What's more surprising is that he decided to give up the child a few days later, saying that he was afraid that I could not pass the threshold, but also for the happiness of our children. He offered to compensate the 24-year-old female colleague with 30000 yuan, and I agreed, although our savings were not much.
The next day, he began to ask me to have a baby. Two months later, I told him that my chronic nephritis had three plus signs and was not suitable for another birth. So I took the contraceptive pill, but he didn't say anything. I was secretly glad. Before long, I found that they still had phone and text messages. I was busy studying and preparing for work while taking my children. Although I was always nervous, I didn't pay much attention to their affairs.
In October 2010, I began to discuss this matter with him after I finished the exam. In addition, I found that his business card even had the telephone number of the female colleague, so I took the business card and asked him. He said that she was a clerk and answering the phone was arranged by the company, etc. I asked him to give me a promise, but he never promised to "never look for children again". His trick is to shut up, no matter what I say, people will not accept.
For this reason, I ran away from home for half a month in order to give him a warning. In the past half month, he first criticized me harshly, said that I had violated his right to procreation, then showed weakness, said that the pressure of being a father and a mother was not small, and finally sent a message about the poor children, so I couldn't help but go home again.
After he came back, he was more attentive to me than before, and I could not see any sign of his cheating. He came home on time every day, and there was no abnormal phone message at home. And after half a month, the girl also resigned, and I was safe for half a year.
A few days ago, he told me that the girl was pregnant again and was about to give birth. He might need to spend half his time with her, so he told me. God! Such a thing happened! Another accident, but I didn't suffer for the first time. I may have been preparing for the day.
He said a lot of the same things as last time. He said that he would choose this woman because she would not compete with me for status. People are willing to be small. He knew that my bad breath was hard to swallow, and my life would not be better if I divorced. He would work hard to make money to ensure the quality of life of the two families. I told him at that time: "Impossible, do your emperor's dream!"
A week has passed, and my determination to divorce is not firm enough. I despise myself. I know that staying in this family will humiliate my female friends. It breaks my heart to think that my two young children will grow up in a broken family. If the children were brought up by the old people in their hometown, the impact of parents' divorce on the children would be smaller. I brought up the two brothers and sisters myself. How painful it would be if I left my father or mother. Whenever I see two children playing together and feeling so good, I'm afraid to separate them.
In addition, to be honest, although my husband is so vicious, he still has so many places that I miss. I always regard him as my closest person. "Our relationship is very good," he said, and I think so. He said that the reason why I didn't find his ugly things outside was that he made a lot of efforts to go home on time every day and accompany the children on weekends. Even when I returned to my mother's house, I never lived outside. He has sheltered me from the wind and rain for nearly 10 years, and left me at once really at a loss.
If you don't leave, you can't bear it. I am now an ostrich, burying my head in the sand, but in a few days he will not go home half the time. I can't imagine how crazy I will be.
I have been swaying from side to side in contradiction. The idea of wanting to divorce and not wanting to divorce is about 6:4. I know that I should get divorced, but I refuse to act. I may be afraid of setbacks and not good at dealing with difficulties. My most desired result is that he has no affair, and his home is still his former home, but it is impossible, although I did not verify whether his child is really going to be born. Even if it is false, his determination to have children will not change. The other two results, divorce or humiliation, are so terrible to me.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
