My husband played cards with his friends on the wedding anniversary. I was angry and separated from him

One month has passed, and my heart is still blocked. My husband and I have been in love for two years, married for one year, and have no children. Our feelings fluctuate and fluctuate. My husband likes playing cards. He said that playing cards is a way to release pressure. Because of playing cards, we delayed a lot of appointments. Sometimes, while having dinner, a friend called and said, "Three is missing one." He immediately begged me with a smile and let him go. In a word, I am not as important as his friends and mahjong in his heart.

Recalling the time when he was in love, he was considerate to me in every way. When I went out to eat, I didn't like meat; When I caught a cold, he came to take care of me at the first time. I identified him and married him. Now that we are married, in only one year, I found that he only has his friends and his entertainment programs in his eyes. The wedding anniversary is coming. I want to improve our relationship through this memorable day.

I prepared the activities on the anniversary day early. I went to eat a big meal first, then went to the amusement park to relax, watched a movie in the evening, and then went to the hotel to open a room. I made an appointment with my husband in advance. No matter what happened on the day, I would push it off. He was very satisfied with my planned activities and happily agreed. It was Friday, and we were in a good mood. Everything was planned. After watching the movie, we were ready to go back to the hotel for a rest. His friend called. When I heard his phone ring, I felt very depressed and worried that he would leave.

As I expected, his friend asked him to play cards. My husband wants to go very much. He looks pathetic. I certainly won't agree. In order to save face, he promised on the phone. Hang up, my anger has come up. While coaxing me to wait for him at the hotel, he packed up his things and prepared to go to his friend. He told me to play for an hour, let me take a bath, watch TV for a while and wait for him to come back. As a result, I waited all night without seeing him. The next day, when I came home, he slept soundly in the bedroom.

I held my breath. When he woke up and saw me, he suddenly woke up. He was very embarrassed to tell me that the situation at that time could not go. He also apologized to me. I have heard this kind of nonsense more than once, but I didn't expect him to leave me on a wedding anniversary. I was angry to live with him separately. For several nights, he wanted to make love. I pushed him away coldly. We are now in the cold war, and I feel sad at the thought of spending our wedding anniversary like that. Marry such a husband, it's really frustrating. What should I do when I think of marriage?

Reply from the consultant:

Hello. The relationship between husband and wife is not judged by the anniversary. The key lies in peacetime. He can't deny all his efforts with one day's performance. Love and marriage are different concepts. During the period of love, two people often talk about romantic words such as "I love you", but marriage is different. After marriage, love may be less, and love is gradually changing into family love. You can't always put his behavior towards you during love into marriage. In this case, it's easy to get upset.

Everyone has his own circle of friends and hobbies. If you hate his habit of playing cards, you are naturally disgusted with his behavior. The important thing for two people to live is to be modest. Don't punish him through separation and cold violence. He has apologized to you. You may as well give him advice at this time. Be stingy. You can still live as you are when you are angry. Anger will only make the distance between you farther and farther. Men are more face-loving. Give him a step down, communicate more at ordinary times, and build your own circle of friends. Don't put your whole heart on men, so you are both too tired.